I am seeing a lot of posts about AA, so I thought I'd write this to give you guys inspiration on how I conquered my fear of approaching within a few days of going out.

When we all start, we have extremely bad AA. I remember last Saturday I was walking around the shopping mall trying to approach a cute girl but found myself making last second excuses on why I shouldn't approach her. I must have done about 5 laps round the mall.

Now I'm able to approach with a little anxiety but I still look forward to doing it.

It's all in your head

All this anxiety is in your head. You're not gonna be called a rapist for just talking to a girl. Most girls are friendly and if you take a chilled out approach like "Hey, hows it going." then a girl will respond positively.

If you have really bad AA then I would advise you to do night game until you feel a bit comfortable approaching before day game

Personally, night game helped me ease through to approaching because I had the morale support from friends and a bit of liquid courage to socially lubricate myself away from all the awkwardness from talking to strangers. Now it's just normal to talk to random people at night. People are expecting you to mingle with everyone at night. During the day it is a lot more awkward as people are out to do things instead of meet new people.

Don't look to close if you're not confident enough

You don't have to close if you don't feel comfortable approaching girls. Just talk to them and be on your way. My main mistake was that I was aiming to high from the start. I thought if I approach a girl I would have to close her in order to get over my AA. I was wrong. This hindered my improvement as I always hesistated because the thought of asking for a number after was just scary to me.

Frustration may lead you to success

Towards the end I was so fed up, something just snapped and I just opened the nearest cute girl I saw. My opener was literally "You're cute as fuck, I had to meet you. What is your name?" and I ended up making some small talk and got to know her a bit better (while her friend was waiting for her). I went for the number closed and it was fine.

Now I see getting numbers as no big deal unless you can follow up with something with it.

Your first close will make everything easier and you will be in God Mode

Your first close will be the best feeling ever. You will get a boost in confidence and achieve God Mode for the rest of the night. God Mode will allow you to have confidence to approach anyone and not give a fuck because you feel like a straight up boss. After this approaches will be a lot easier and you will even look forward to approach just so you can have a chance to feel this God Mode (imagine Mario when he gets that star).

Too scared of asking for the number still? Ask for her Facebook

I've tried this once and the girl ended up giving me her number instead of me asking her. Asking for Facebook is more casual and less personal if you're looking to make new friends first to ease yourself in to asking for things from girls.

Any cute girl you don't approach is like punching yourself in the balls

If you don't approach a cute girl when you see them, then you're pretty much punching yourself in the balls because you're stopping yourself from potentially finding that girl. Even if it was a 0.001% chance, it's still a chance you missed. Now think of all them girls you were scared to approach. You may have missed hundreds of chances to meet your special girl. Never let that happen again.

As soon as you get over AA, you can work on other parts of your game

Currently I'm comfortable with approaching girls, now I'm working on my conversational skills. Don't rush to close because you will end up wasting your time with her flaking.

Have fun, and whenever you crash and burn make sure you see the fun side of it

Don't worry if you get denied. You will get used to it in the end and just laugh it off. At least you tried right?

Look on the dancefloor and you will see many AFCs get denied. Don't think of yourself being the only one who can't approach or get girls. If you crash and burn, think of why you crashed and burnt. It might not be you, it may be the girl.

On Tuesday I was dancing on the dancefloor and there was this girl giving every guy the middle finger who got near her. I purposely avoided this girl by turning my back against her. Next thing I know, she's rubbing her arse and body all over me. And as I turn around I see her giving me the finger. Shit like this happens and its another story you can use.

I'm gonna use this story tonight when I talk to a girl.

Good luck on smashing through your AA. It's the hardest bit of getting into pickup but once you get past it, you will be forever improving your game.