Hello guys,

So, I've been lucky enough to get laid once in a while lately. I'm looking for something long term, but I'll take that while waiting for the cool lady I'll build my life with.

The thing is, I handle rejection pretty well when I get rejected before having sex. I treat it as a reflection of their relationship with them, and not with me.

But if we do have sex, and I do get ghosted / soft-rejected, it really got on my nerves and I go into overthinking mode.

I hooked up with a girl one month and an half ago. She made it clear it was casual, I was not sure if it was a fwb or ons though. We spend the night together, and got ghosted the next day. I'm currently traveling and in another country. I saw a girl twice. Wanted to see her again before leaving, in one week, and she said she wanted to but was too busy to do so. Took it as a soft rejection, since I know she's free to do stuff with her friends, more a matter of priorities. It kinda puzzled me, since I took extra care of making her orgasm (since I wasn't able to with the first girl, I assumed I was ghosted because of that) and she had some eye-rollings one.

I didn't envision something long term with these girls, but I really did liked them. First girl was funny and had good banter, and an appreciation of art I liked. Second girl was an surgeron, that wants to travel the world to operate people in poor country, I kinda admirated that adventurous and selfless side.

Still, it fucks with me and my self-esteem. I would love to take it as cool little experience, what they are, but my mind is pulling dirty tricks on me.

Edit: Also, I'm not worried, I know very well that in one or two months, I'll get to know other girls. But yeah, it doesn't seems to change my frame.

Any thoughts ?