Hey fellas,

I've been back to dating for the past two years. I'm 28M for reference. The problem is that, I have no problem getting ons or fwb, but I do struggle to get relationship.

For example, the past year, while seeking a relationship, I slept with 7 new girls. None concluded in something near a relationship. Sometime, it was implied from the start. Sometime, the girl decided, for example, that the fact that I smoke weed periodically (like once every month or two month) was a dealbreaker for a serious relationship, but she was still keen to see me on FwB terms. I probably dated something like 30 girls this year.

The girls I'm dating are mainly from dating app.

That does puzzle me since I do exhibit way more "nice/serious guy" behavior than "bad/exciting guy" behavior. I'm confident in myself, even thoo I'm having bad self esteem. I'm very average looking face-wise, but pretty hot/very sporty, having six pack for example (but that's not something I show on dating app, I tend to hide it because I want something serious), doing thaï boxing/MMA. I hold on a lot on sexualizing (and even when the girl sexualize, I divert the conversation). I do have a stable and high paying job. I have multiple cool friends groups. I try to build a connection before trying to flirt, banter or teasing.

I'm anxious/avoidant attachement style. But it's something I know and I'm working actively in therapy. Only thing that would make sense is that it's my choice of girl.

Did that ever happened to you ? If so, what did you do ?