Getting started at 50

Playful_Dot_537 · 2025-08-25T19:42:34+00:00

I am 57 and I am shocked at how much attention I get from women in the 25-32 age range.

I think the most important part to remember is that if you are relatively healthy, are well dressed and well groomed, have decent emotional IQ and can carry a conversation you are heads and tails above 95% of the men they are meeting and dating.

And if you are into younger women, many of them will consider your age and experience a benefit and not a shortcoming.

You may think you're over the hill but many women may think you are the kind of man they are actually looking for.

Have fun!

autodidacticasaurus · 2025-08-25T21:01:08+00:00

I think Mystery Method is important as a historical document and getting some basics but do not take it literally. A lot of people have improved upon it since then. In fact, a large part of the industry are arguing against it or just ripping it off and mutating it in some ways.

Models is great, but look at RSD's Foundations and Blueprint Decoded as well, the latter of which influenced Models somewhat.

Also, on YouTube, for super practical advice look at Coach Kyle. I also recommend Dan Bacon on YT for learning how to handle women's bs. It's helped me a lot in relationships and in online dating. For texting game, you have Playing With Fire (a bit of douche but good advice that works) and The Single Guy.

More importantly is just to go talk to women any way you can. For approach anxiety, just talk to every stranger you can, male or female. Shop keepers, baristas, bar tenders, security guards, etc. Warming up like that makes it a lot easier to talk to girls for me.

Just don't give up, whatever you do. It's a grind but it does pay off.

Chicagoj1563 · 2025-08-26T02:02:39+00:00

I’m in my 50s and you can definitely do this at this age.

I wouldn’t waste too much time reading books or watching videos. There isn’t any super secret knowledge. Just some mindsets and some basic understandings.

If you are new to game, watch coach Kyle’s videos on YouTube. He’s a pickup coach and he does coach guys in their 50s. There are other coaches too. Just watch a handful of infields to see what cold approach looks like. Learn some basic mindsets and common mistakes guys make.

Main thing, go out, meet people and work on social skills. That’s the game. It was the same thing in the 90s.

meet lots of women and play the numbers game. Improve with each night you go out. Make it fun and addictive. Turn rejection into self amusement.

You can also combine online with going out. If you can build a social circle, even better.

Comfortable_Emu4357 · 2025-08-25T22:29:41+00:00

Follow ToddVDating and TheNaturalLifestyles on Youtube, good luck unc!!

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-08-25T20:22:34+00:00

You seduce women by inviting women to feel your sexual desire without making it feel like you want them to recriprocate.

Your job when you approach is to express what you feel yourself for real in an emotionally-driven way, not to try to get sex or a relationship or reciprocation, or anything from her, bur rather to invite her to feel what you are feeling so that she submerges herself into the emotion and you both just allow each other to sit with the emotion.

And what is the emotion that you express? The way she makes you feel in terms of lighthearted sexual desire (not of love). The emotional effect her body, her behaviour, her mannerisms, has on you. That's what flirting is. Tell her the things she makes you feel in terms of attraction and sexual desire

"The way you are trying so hard not to kiss her right now", "the way you lose concentration when she smiles cute like that, the way your heart rate increases when she does "that" particular thing", "the way her gaze kinda hypnotizes you", "the way her touch hits you like a wave", "the way her mannersims warm up your heart", "the way you feel so drawn to her and can't help it", "the way your mind just short-circuit when you saw her wearing that dress", the way you forgot what you were planning on doing today when you saw how cute she looked", "the way she just took your breath away", "the way you can't help but imagine how you'd like to pin her against the wall and make her yours",...

This is how you flirt, not by telling them compliments or descriptions of what good qualities she has, but by expressing the emotional effect her attributes or actions have on you instead.

It's something that you say without expecting anything in return, so you should not expect her to tell you thank you, or i feel the same way, or i like you too or anything, it's simply you telling her "i just tell you because it's just how i feel and only want it to share it". And this behaviour requires you to stop caring about getting one particular specific girl and instead just go for many HOT girls, and aim to make them feel your desire without attaching yourself to any outcome. In other words, let women who don't feel your vibe go.

Now, she could say whatever she wants like: "we barely know each other", "you are so direct or too foward", "i have a boyfriend", "it's weird that you express yourself like this"... Whatever, that's all her social conditioning and logical side speaking. If she says things like that, you don't say sorry, or take it back, or go defensive, or anything, you simply double down by saying "i hear you, and i don't want anything, it's just how i feel, and i'm just sharing it because i can't resits you right now, you make it so damn hard, like a magenet that i can't help but feel drawn to".

See what you do with this type of emotionally driven expression? You are not convicing her, you are not asking for something, you are just expressing how you feel interanlly because that should be your only focus. Express and express what most guys usually hide.

And in the contet of sex, it's pretty much the same thing. You feel like having sex? you communicate it like i descriebd above,... You don't say "i would like to have sex with you" because that's rational request, which doesn't invite her to feel but to analyse the request. You express the sexual desire that she makes you feel without expecting clarity from her or validation or to give it to you in that moment. You simply express that something happens in your body that lights it up and you are simply sharing it with her.

Now you don't say this in a serious super tense way as if the stakes are high or like you are waiting for some huge move from her, no the tone is basically "yeah this is the music i like, here listen a bit to it". You are not demanding that she igves you something in return for sharing music, you are just inviting them to feel what moves you. You are trying to get them to feel without demanding that they do it. Hence why you cannot make it feel like you expect her to give you something like clarity about their feelings. You cannot act like your emotional well-being depends on her answer.

This is the secret. Literally. Express feelings without demanding anything in return for sharing your feelings. But if you express feelings expecting her to give you something, then that's pressure and it won't work. So be careful in how you express it to not make it sound transactional or demanding or like a covert request

Mathisback · 2025-08-26T06:51:56+00:00

As a younger fella I love this

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2025-08-27T05:58:30+00:00

You need to look at other men and watch how they dress and act and outmatch them.

I'm 50 and I wear leather jackets. Younger people compliment me on my clothes. I'm a little overweight for my height 224 lbs @ 6'5 but I have the physicality so it works.

I can see why women are repulsed by most men I get the train from work and the smell of BO is disgusting. Basic hygiene.

epimpstyle · 2025-08-25T19:54:43+00:00

"Models" is a waste of time, especially considering you're 50 and I'm 47, I know what I say and why I say this.

The book might be useful for youth or for those who aren't interested in learning any deeper theory, in short the book suggests this method: "talk to any woman you want, you don’t need any strategy, just say whatever comes to mind, and if she’s not receptive, move on to the next." We’re past the age where shallow strategies work. The 'spam method' isn’t for us, and trying to change women, as the author suggests, is simply not realistic.

Mystery’s method might be useful if you're dealing with 9s or 10s, but otherwise, things aren't as complicated as he makes them seem. That said, his 3M method is actually what you need. It may look difficult at first, but once you understand what he's saying, it becomes surprisingly easy.

Life-Income2986 · 2025-08-26T00:10:22+00:00

How are you 50 and able to read something like the mystery method and think it might be a good idea? Do you have a wide social circle of all genders and an active social life?

juiceperks · 2025-08-26T06:29:51+00:00

Title	Getting started at 50
Author	Akaza75
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Date	August 25, 2025 7:33 PM UTC (11 months ago)
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