Going out when you feel shit?

Pedantic_Me · 2016-02-25T02:48:00+00:00

Nah. I do this to have fun. If I'm not feeling fun, I'll stay in.

Bigjohnthug · 2016-02-25T07:00:36+00:00

Yes. If it's mentally feeling shit go out and build that will power. It makes the good nights even better.

However I've learned this the hard way: if you're sick stsy at fucking home. Even a throat tickle. A long, sleepless night damns it all to hell. Better miss one night of game than one week of life.

TheMinistryOfAwesome · 2016-02-25T08:58:34+00:00

This is an interesting question actually.

IT's a tough one however it's something i've thought about too.

Basically my conclusion was this: If i don't feel 100% about going out i'll go out anyway irrespective of how I feel. A great example is training - i get battered and bruised and sore from it but always come out feeling great. Even if i feel a bit shitty to begin with, intellectually I know that by the end it'll be wonderful and so I take feelings out of the equation totally.

"I have decided I will go, it must be done!"

It's a similar thing for other kinds of activities too. However despite saying that if my heart isn't into the idea of pickup (I do daygame/nightgame too) it's very hard to motivate myself knowing that the sour attitude will filter through into conversation and likely create a negative feedback which makes me feel shitter. What I usually do instead is more along "game by proxy" or "opportunisitic gaming". Where, instead of going out wiht the purpose of approaching I will simply approach a girl that I think "fuck, she's cute" in a split decision.

For the record, I am training for a fight right now and have to go for a long HIiT run in 2.5hrs - i'm feeling sore and tired and don't want to but I will still go. The same can be applied to most things in life - including pickup - if you can pickup a hot girl when feeling shit, you'll have her swooning all over you when you're on it.

StevieBoyB · 2016-02-25T13:19:01+00:00

It's good for building a habit and breaking past excuses, I've done it a few times. Now I just think fuck it.

Overnight_Delivery · 2016-02-25T16:33:12+00:00

Do you guys go out and approach if you feel shit emotionally?

yes, I would never "go out" without doing some techniques to undo my current state. Like singing in public or heavily hit on some cashiers etc to get my mood up etc. So ultimately I always start off in a shitty state.

DaygameCoach · 2016-02-25T20:28:42+00:00

Are you talking about approach anxiety or chronic depression?

Peckerdick · 2016-02-25T23:50:09+00:00

How often do you feel 100% ready to go out and approach girls? Probably rarely, if ever. You're sitting there, feeling anxious about doing something that might end up being unpleasant, can cause negative emotions, and is something your instincts perceive as threatening. Of course you're not going to feel great about it.

You'll be amazed by how quickly your mood changes when you're out there doing it, though. You really need to push yourself, even when you have to drag your ass. You keep forcing yourself and it becomes more comfortable for you, and you will slowly start enjoying it more and more.

neverwinterguyVN · 2016-02-26T15:40:38+00:00

How about starting to build your social circle. Join a club,play sport, volunteer.smile more and have fun.I used to emo kid who always depressed.But I decided to put on a stupid grin on my face all the times. If you are happy then people will feel happy to be with you.if they not, it's not your problem

manoloman2 · 2016-02-25T17:50:46+00:00

There's a video like your thread title, take a look https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5rbExmtRHL4

Title	Going out when you feel shit?
Author	aiosc
Upvotes	5
Comments	14
Date	February 25, 2016 2:43 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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