Good icebreakers/conversation starters?

ZoeticLark · 2022-08-25T00:50:06+00:00

Have some things you are into, some solo, some in group setting. The solo stuff is for you to be with yourself, doing something productive that you can be proud of. The group stuff is to practice your social skills. BOTH give you something to talk about and relate to others with. Group activity could be a sport, game night, dance, martial art, or yoga classes. Something with other people in the room, preferably where you have to be face to face, but you decide what level of interaction you are comfortable with. Yoga is a bit solo, but still in a group. Dance is the other side of the spectrum, super intimidating as a first option.. dancing with total strangers while learning something new- not for the faint of heart, but maybe something to build up to if you want to be a worldly romeo someday. Start with something less scary- maybe a game night, book club, or a bike ride group? Meetup can be a good website for finding something near you.

After some time, you've joined a group and been at it a few weeks.... got some interests going, and socializing with platonic friends is breaking down your walls a bit and warming you up. Maybe you did something productive on your own too. It doesnt matter if its finishing a crossword puzzle or a book or fixing something around the house or taking a personal interest in a subject that you research or get into a bit more. It gives you something to relate to others with.

Now, more time has passed, neuroplasticity is developing... and next time you're out, you will notice more things that are possible openers for you. It doesnt matter what it is necessarily, the point is you are more stimulated and more able to find relatable subjects of mutual interest. Maybe she's just buying the same drink (soda/juice/wine/whatever) you swear by and you feel the urge to say, "isnt that the best?" And lead into the next thing..( I also like xyz... have you tried it?) Or maybe you're at an event and you can ask them a question about their favorite thing there... be curious. most will see a genuine effort and meet it. Its all about having mutual, relatable interests. This is a long term solution suggestion for authentic connection. Playing numbers is a different tack and i dont have an easy answer about what to say to that. I am speaking more to the question of how to be confident and social. This is how. You have to connect with yourself and common human interests, so you can then connect with others.

Someday, as you grow older, what you spend your time doing and how you feel about yourself will be written on your face and in your eyes. There are plenty of people supposing to be having fun without any deep connection, to gain confidence by forcing past themselves or others, and adding notches to their post. There is something to be said for exploring the wirld and people and developing your skills in a variety of ways, so im not poo pooing casual sex if thats your thing... But I find, when i look deep enough, many people ive known like this, who espouse low commitment values, are deeply sad and lonely and just good at hiding their real inner turmoil. There is often alot of "fallout" around those people. Unhappy neglected spouse or children, dysfuntional business or alot of chaos/confusion, which is often blamed on others (guys with "psycho exs" tend to be psychotic). Often they are so detached from themselves they are no longer relatable on any level except the most superficial ones and tend to still be hanging on to manipulation tactics that start to glare really bad after a certain age..

To each their own, but I think if its authentic confidence and social skills you want, having interests that you develop in a group setting and accomplishing little things you can take pride in is going to help you be way more attractive, long term. Some of my biggest crushes in life happened because of how i saw them doing what they do. Not to mention all the potential introductions you might end up having just for being invovled with a group of other people.

anchoredteal · 2022-08-24T15:17:49+00:00

It doesn't matter what you say.. it's HOW you say it.

I usually go in with "hi, what are u up to?" to which she usually doesn't reply much and is awkward - then I calibrate with "sorry, I know this is random but I saw you and just had to say hi".. to which she responds with something and then I compliment her with "cool shoes" or "nice dress" etc.. and then ask again what she is up to if she didn't respond the first time.

This is just an example of what I do but this is the gist of it..

Talk about stuff that makes YOU laugh, that makes YOU feel good - if you feel good then she will feel good and add flirting:

Try holding eye contact few seconds longer than is comfortable - this create sexual tension which is really important for flirting and making her understand that you want her more than just a friend.

You can also make double meaning sexual undertone jokes (but not blatant ones and try to keep it at a minimum or zero at the start).

Also, teasing is the heart and soul of flirting - obviously don't overdo it but girls like challenge. I am not talking about insulting the girl but poking a bit of fun over her as you would with your best buddies.

I'd suggest giving this book a read (google drive link) - helped me in terms of approaching girls, keeping interactions going, flirting, asking for a date etc..

I hope this helped a bit :)

sincere_blasphemy · 2022-08-24T18:54:06+00:00

It’s always nice to start with a compliment! Outfit, a mannerism, etc. “Wow, nice jacket!” “You have a lovely smile” “Oh cool, you like xyz band? Me too!”

epimpstyle · 2022-08-24T18:05:52+00:00

Someone told me that he went to a girl and said something like this: "Hei, my t-shirt is also blue... this must be a sign..."

I like that opener but it was a problem... it was no girl wearing a green t-shirt and soon I realized that the main problem is not about the opener, it was about the lack of courage in going toward a girl and telling her something. When you have this courage, it doesn't matter what you say... you will keep your head up even if she ignores you, her reaction will not affect you and actually, if you see her again in the next few minutes, you will be able to tell her "Hi" :-)

Analjuiceyumm · 2022-08-25T00:12:30+00:00

Just be honest. Hi 👋 you’re very pretty and i wanted to come meet you. What are you up to today? Then just go from there…

I don’t even ask for names unless she ask first or we’re exchanging numbers. It shows she’s curious if she ask first. If you get to number exchange without asking for name then make a light joke about not knowing each others names.

Cold_Song_9367 · 2022-08-25T12:27:23+00:00

Be genuine. Go shopping and pick a girl at the till, find something about her. I like your nails, I like your dress, it looks good on you. If you're shy walk past someone, make sure you get their attention, good morning... I like your, where did you get that...

Chill out, when you get comfortable, do something that makes you feel awkward, not her. The pain/ sting lasts for seconds. It passes.

I practice Krav Maga which is full contact but not full power, once you get hit in the face a few times, you learn the pain is short.

Apply yourself, have fun.

I always say good morning etc, followed by how are you today... How's your day going? What are you doing after you finish work? Do you have any plans for the weekend? Just simple convo.

Hi, you're so pretty... Walk away. You made her day.

Hope this helps.

Sandvicheater · 2022-08-24T23:25:42+00:00

Hey baby did the asphalt hurt when you ascended from hell?

Omraval_ · 2022-08-25T05:56:09+00:00

E4 is the best move

HeavyDroofin · 2022-08-24T21:41:28+00:00

Nipples for fingers or fingers for nipples?

zapadz · 2022-08-24T17:02:26+00:00

Try the “Talk to anyone” video here http://davidtianphd.com/masterclass-content/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nGYy_QKRS4c

Majestic_Ad_2885 · 2022-08-25T03:51:27+00:00

Nice tits

revente · 2022-08-24T15:19:47+00:00

Hey, what's your name?

France_linux_css · 2022-08-24T19:01:20+00:00

Ask origin or guess origin

2022-08-24T19:34:51+00:00

You’d be amazed at what a little “HELLO “ could do

Repulsive-Fee393 · 2022-08-24T20:17:49+00:00

Observations

jack3dr00 · 2022-08-25T03:34:33+00:00

Really depends on the situation man. I avoid approaching strangers but if it's a must then- talk about clothes or something they are doing. Just pick up on something you know about or are curious about that doesn't sound creepy and start the convo from there. It should flow from there.

EddieDildoHands · 2022-08-25T05:57:13+00:00

”Would you ever date a serial killer?”

texaspete3 · 2022-08-26T15:50:05+00:00

As someone who is an introvert , use that to your advantage. Something ive noticed about introverts is that they are very good at making observations.

So before you talk to a complete stranger , make an observation about them that could be a conversation starter. THis works well if they have at t shirt that shows an interest of theirs such as a sports team, a college, or a musician.

Cold_Song_9367 · 2022-09-08T08:29:00+00:00

Just to add to this. Are most of you guys in the USA or Canada? As the women are more open than here in the UK? You have to be a little more careful.

Title	Good icebreakers/conversation starters?
Author	Synapdragon
Upvotes	98
Comments	32
Date	August 24, 2022 2:28 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/wwl0ca/good_icebreakersconversation_starters/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/good-icebreakersconversation-starters.1251311 https://theredarchive.com/post/1251311

Comments