Hardcore Social Anxiety

TonyDCoaching · 2018-05-07T18:35:01+00:00

So what's the question?

You think you're the only one? This whole forum, and almost every pickup forum is dedicated to men with social anxiety.

I had very intense social anxiety too. I did the regimen, worked on it for many years, now I'm a dating coach. If I can do it, anyone can.

You have my permission to keep working on yourself. You can do it. I believe in you.

thecriesofthecarrotz · 2018-05-08T03:38:31+00:00

Just remember that in any given social setting, unless you're really blatantly acting like a jackass, no one will notice or care...

Zoidberg22 · 2018-05-07T20:55:42+00:00

I used to have massive social anxiety which looking back upon it as the person I've turned into today is shocking, only 3 years ago. I would actively not go to social functions, and avoided orientation at my uni since I would have to talk to other people. I got over it by talking to people in my classes during first year etc and going from there. 2nd year I joined clubs etc, and finally talked to women (which I remember the first time I talked to a girl with intent since high school, I stammered and stuttered when talking to her), which blew since she was kinda into me and was pretty. Anyways, now I feel empty a bit if I'm not social a bit every day. Start slow, and talk to guys/older women if attractive women scare you to talk to them. Looking back on it, if I can make this change, so can you.

pipboy90 · 2018-05-07T21:55:17+00:00

I recommend daily meditation OP. Check out the Headspace app

Tiger-Billionaire · 2018-05-07T19:54:52+00:00

My buddy had/has social anxiety and went to a psychiatrist. He got some anti-anxiety meds that worked pretty damn well. He approached every damn woman at our college. Real anxiety disorders can't always be treated by willpower alone.

pulplesspulp · 2018-05-07T18:27:34+00:00

They’re probably feeling the same thing. You’re not going to die. First time

0urlasthope · 2018-05-08T00:30:20+00:00

This used to be me. You can do it buddy 🙂

TheSelfGoverned · 2018-05-08T03:39:39+00:00

5-10 shroom trips will melt that away. Permanently.

alman3322 · 2018-05-16T11:18:29+00:00

Are you meeting people where you may not know if you have anything in common with them? (like a bar or a random public space?)

Debilitating social anxiety is a real thing. It can be dealt with but not by just dumping yourself into random situations. The best bet you have is doing something in a group setting that you enjoy. You don't have to join a club or anything, but even swimming and going to a pool or if you like art, going to an art show, something where obviously people are there for exactly the same reason as you so you always have some sort of basis of commonality to fall back on if the conversation feels awkward and it won't feel strange if you move on. If you're at a pool and the conversation doesn't work out you can just swim away. If you're at an art show you can just move on to the next art piece. You can't do that at a random pub.

As well, if you're going out to meet women, you should be doing it just as much to enjoy yourself. You should never go somewhere just because you think you'll get laid. That can be one of the reasons, but the other always has to be for yourself. Part of the reason you're socially awkward is probably because you think the things you like aren't things other people like. So put yourself in a situation where you know other people around you like the same thing you do.

Good luck!

UltiiE · 2018-05-07T18:05:59+00:00

Sounds an awful lot like moi.

Skuggasveinn · 2018-05-07T21:17:26+00:00

Own it. Talk even though you're scared. Go for the prettiest girl in the room first, and the rest will be cake.

Courage is doing things despite of fear.

Title	Hardcore Social Anxiety
Author	Bobbindy47
Upvotes	18
Comments	35
Date	May 7, 2018 3:52 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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