Has anyone really changed from being a "nice guy" to being a "jock"?? If yes, what are some noticeable things that you did that made it happen?

Skittles_N_Vodka · 2013-06-14T01:41:20+00:00

I never was into sports, still am not, have no interest to be. I am a music enthusiast, I play guitar and love all kinds of music but my root is metal and rock. The metal head look with the long hair, scragely beards and the over sized shirts is NOT a good look for anyone. I have a fauxhawke, dark hair, piercings, tattoos and a rockstar attitude, and Outlook on life. You don't have to be a jock. Just be yourself. Your best self. Your alpha self.

inzolence · 2013-06-14T00:23:41+00:00

The biggest step for me was to just STOP GIVING A FUCK. When what everyone else thought was out of the picture I could finally let loose.

This wasn't easy, took me almost 2 years because I just cared sooo fucking much what people thought about me when I was younger. This was before I started taking advice from others, before reddit.

Now I am the person I wanted to be when growing up.

Be the 1% and own it.

lemonbrains · 2013-06-13T23:46:59+00:00

I realized being nice and being passive do not have the same meaning and usually when referring to the "nice" guy implies the guy is passive and not very assertive. Once you start gaining self confidence and telling yourself you deserve what you want and you do not have to sacrifice yourself for what everyone else wants, you'll start to get it.

2013-06-14T07:46:13+00:00

You need to analyse why you are a nice guy. To me it meant I didn't want to offend anyone or say no because if I did what they wanted they would automatically 'approve' of me. But in reality thats not what happens. They will take advantage of your 'kindness' and not reciprocate. And you are actually very selfish as a 'nice guy' as everything you do is done with the expectation that you are owed something. You took the girl out for dinner 3 times and yet she didn't kiss you!? But she wasn't obligated to. Nice guys are actually jerks. Girls and all people in general are not sex dispensers or kindness dispensers. Pouring in kindness does not guarantee a return.

Thats my take on what not to do, anyhow.

Southy97 · 2013-06-14T01:15:50+00:00

I made the change and there are several factors that need to be changed to fully accomplish the new you.

Style. You are going to need to go out and be bold. Pick your look. Me being Canadian grew a beauty flow (Hockey hair), and bought some nice dress shirts. People ask why I look so dressed up often (in a good way, infact more than 70% of the time they follow up with "because it looks really good, more people should do it").
Demeanor. Alter how you carry yourself and control the frame. Sell who you are to people. Generally you want people to see you as cocky and confidant. That means portraying a IDGAF attitude. My favorite way to show this is by being self amused; reasons being 1. its fucking hilarious and 2. I'm fucking hilarious. People will think you are a dick but those are the AFC's or former peers who now see you as a threat.
Confidence. You an gain this in various ways. Work out. Smile always and everywhere. Show it in your body language, take up space, etc.
DHV (Display higher value). Work on friendships, popularity, and anything that will make you look like someone who people view as a leader and a positive/fun person to be around.

Work on these and you should be fine.

Hope that helps buddy!

-Southy

Parasthesia · 2013-06-14T01:43:23+00:00

Jock? Is this highschool?

recyclablebantha · 2013-06-14T07:27:14+00:00

Did you mean "jock" or "jerk"?

rseguizabal · 2013-06-15T17:05:58+00:00

i got my first proper game when i visited europe on vacation with some friends, i think it was a combination of being just with good friends?wingmen and not knowing anyone else (hence not caring about what you do) just act like you cant give a fuck bout anything.

ChildOfTheLostTribes · 2013-06-15T22:37:49+00:00

I started telling people no esp. to women. Also, being NOT thirsty helped. I took heed to what women said about other men they wouldn't give the time of day to and learned from there.

pschr · 2013-06-13T23:59:10+00:00

Transformation stories are countless in this subreddit; I guess you could look for something there?

Styles_Stewart · 2013-06-14T00:36:56+00:00

I don't see why you couldn't be nice and be a jock do you not think for yourself in life and make your own choices? You're post comes across as strangely lacking confidence. You don't even have the confidence in life to be whatever person it is you want to be...

DrPhilJr · 2013-06-14T22:48:45+00:00

/r/howtonotgiveafuck is great for this.

Title	Has anyone really changed from being a "nice guy" to being a "jock"?? If yes, what are some noticeable things that you did that made it happen?
Author	mgray1
Upvotes	2
Comments	20
Date	June 13, 2013 10:46 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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