Hesitation and shyness

drumsun · 2025-10-11T11:08:06+00:00

Couple of drinks usually do the trick

epimpstyle · 2025-10-11T11:49:11+00:00

In short is about 4 major steps.

Have a good mood. Try listening to music you enjoy, do some push-ups or jumping jacks, take a cold shower, or watch stand-up comedy on YoutTube. Don’t stay grumpy, let go of your problems and enjoy life. It’s much easier to get into a good mood when you’re with friends. Alone, it’s tougher.
Become more talkative - call your friends or chat with your parents or siblings before going out. In bootcamps, students are told to stand 10–15 meters apart and talk to each other. That way, they have to raise their voices, which helps them break out of their shell. If you watch sword-fighting movies, you’ll notice warriors shouting as they charge it’s how they greet their opponents and shake off inhibition.
warm up - If you haven’t skipped the previous steps, then talking to strangers isn’t that hard. For example, you can chat with a bartender, like I did here in this VIDEO1. You can talk to other customers at the bar see VIDEO2. Or simply ask people on the street where the nearest bus station is. This is tricky, if you don’t say a word for 15–20 minutes, your default quiet and shy state tends to come back.
talk to a girl - since you last talked to a person you have max 15-20 minutes to talk to a girl VIDEO3

StealPantera · 2025-10-11T13:50:39+00:00

Go in with the intention of getting rejected. Not by saying something stupid or rude, but instead of your desired outcome being to succeed, make the desired outcome to get rejected.

Viking-Warrior-King · 2025-10-11T09:17:53+00:00

I use self hypnosis and the trigger is when I get nervous I relax. I can talk to any woman with any level of attractiveness.

Bullbythehorns25 · 2025-10-11T04:19:42+00:00

You’ll fuck up the first few times, it’s normal.

You can’t become a master without looking like a fool.

To destroy hesitation, implement the 3 second rule.

HtownTheory · 2025-10-11T06:09:45+00:00

We probably need more context. Like how often do you try? Where are you doing these approaches: nightgame or daygame?

norwegiandoggo · 2025-10-11T06:20:14+00:00

What are you afraid of? What fear beliefs are triggered in those moments?

Inevitable_Branch720 · 2025-10-13T01:30:17+00:00

I deal with that disease for years. It has to be progressive exposure. Find your comfort zone , then expand it through drills . 1. Start by dong what you're comfortable with. 2. Go one step further: for example if you're comfortable with eye contact, start saying hi or giving a quick compliment. 3. Once your comfortable with that keep adding elements until you're able to do a full approach.

Now it helps if you have someone experienced guide you through the steps and the speed you need to use to shift from one drill to another, but that's the gist of it . Took me a few days to get rid of my anxiety.

Title	Hesitation and shyness
Author	sexmoneymuerte
Upvotes	7
Comments	27
Date	October 11, 2025 1:00 AM UTC (9 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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