How can I get hookups instead of dates?

PleaseDontBeTakenPlz · 2024-12-14T02:29:14+00:00

Just invite them over but don’t ask for sex. Say you’re looking for a fwb if asked. Otherwise offer up some wine (i know you’re 19 but literally have something to offer) and say you wanna Netflix and chill. If you’re attractive; most girls are going to want to kiss you when ur cuddling and watching Netflix so you’ll have to take it from there!

Bright_Type_7756 · 2024-12-14T02:21:24+00:00

Alottttt of women your age are on the same typa time. If im being honest you'll be surprised at how often they'd agree to have sex once you just be a little straightforward about it. Success rate might be lower than if you were to go out on dates but if you are indeed getting matches it's definitely some who are down to just go at it first link

SplashGodNate · 2024-12-14T02:22:01+00:00

Very few women from dating apps are going to straight up pull-up to your dorm/apartment unless you’re extremely attractive. You’ll usually require some sort of public meet-up beforehand to establish some sort of trust and comfort.
Women are usually more picky this time of year and are more so looking for relationships, not hookups, as the year ends.
If you are just looking for hookups, go to the closest downtown area near you and browse the bars. If you’re somewhat attractive and have confidence, should not be too difficult to have a one night stand. If you’re not in a college town, go to a house party or some sort of function that involves alcohol

Glacier_Sama · 2024-12-14T06:46:22+00:00

Don't listen to the people telling you this isn't possible. I've done this many many many many times.

A good way to go about it is, have a very short conversation in the DM or on the phone or FaceTime.

Invite the girl over tonight. If she can't come tonight, secure the SOONEST available night.

You don't have to bring up sex, but you can. Or you can get her to your place, talk for a bit, have a beer/smoke, then make your move.

I'm at the point where my opening message on Tinder is "Let me rest my face in those titties?" even if they have no titties, 8/10 say "omg yessssss"

burncushlikewood · 2024-12-14T03:56:54+00:00

Lol how are you 19 and "don't have time to do cold approaches" that's my suggestion if you want hookups, dating apps are a shot in the dark, and some men might meet some fast women off of there, others may not it depends on their algorithm. My suggestion is to go to bars and night clubs and start talking to girls, work on your game

Br0ther_Blood · 2024-12-14T11:03:03+00:00

Try an app called HUD, (hook up dating) I’ve got a fair amount of action on there. Girls on there waste no time and are very transparent lol. The only thing that sucks is that you’re gonna have to pay for it if you want a chance. There’s a 7 day free trial tho you can try. I live in bumfuck and was still able to get action. The app is prolly real live on a college campus.

TripleDigitNomad · 2024-12-14T12:59:52+00:00

Step 1: become as attractive as you can (hair, body, style)

Step 2: build an OLD profile that stands out

Step 3: curate a good IG presence

Step 4: get girls' IGs instead of numbers

Step 5: build up trust and comfort in the DMs

Step 6: invite them over for wine and a movie

That's what I do to great effect.

Alternatively, you could change steps 3-5 to being more direct on the dating app (such as using an opening line like "I just want to bend you over my kitchen table", then following it up with "respectfully, of course"), then having a facetime with her to build some trust and comfort, then finishing with step 6 during that facetime.

CharmingRejector · 2024-12-14T14:23:37+00:00

I just don't have time for in person cold approaches

I call bullshit and I think you're just making excuses. Most likely you're just afraid of the social pressure, or of getting rejected in person.

If you're in school, there's no better place for meeting women casually. And there are ways of doing it that does not take extra time, and that does not put you in awkward situations where you risk being rejected. If you're interested, look up how to be more social (while still saving time), and how to mingle in any social situation. And get good at collecting personal details, share insta/facebook/whatsapp etc.

madmaxfromshottas · 2024-12-14T02:37:13+00:00

be straight forward with them not us bro, some will be with it some won’t it’s apart of the game but you’d def have better results cold approaching.

jeffreyc96 · 2024-12-14T08:16:35+00:00

Second paragraph is full of lies, they don’t get laid and probably never will. I lived your age and I can tell you all my ‘homies’ back then said they got laid were full of garbage and just wanted to seem masculine or alpha. You have been fed a bunch of shit throughout your social group and you need to fix that now, or go find out yourself your friends lie to you and you won’t like your results. Women are not like you they don’t typically do hookups with randoms like that they go through a lot of risk on their end of getting laid.

Kindly_Challenge7639 · 2024-12-14T13:22:20+00:00

This is what I learnt. A date in the day time you’re looking for something serious. (That’s what they’ll think) A “date” at night maybe at a bar or something you’re out here for a good time. From first dates alone I have hooked up with girls. Even if I’m not looking for anything serious

I’ve had like no hookups from dating apps. Maybe like one but it transpired from a date if that’s what I’d even call it. Most of mine have even came from going out - nightlife or of friends with benefits/ friends of friends

I’ve met girls in random places like trains and going back to their hotels and doing the deed. I guess you just need to put yourself out there, you can’t just expect it to happen. You need to be that guy

When you meet-up dont be so serious otherwise they’ll think you’re looking for something serious. Just be flirty, have banter and be chill. Idk I guess you need to read their vibe Aswell, read body language and listen to what they’re saying to you. Are they flirting back or giving you any green lights ?

emralkosovo · 2024-12-15T01:28:50+00:00

Great advices from this comment section and i think the best way is to be yourself not a fake persona because it will not last long, just try and go out and shoot your shot and go a little bit out of your comfort zone and try to be the best version of yourself. Dress up be confident and that's a big step towards it.

Large-Log-1011 · 2024-12-14T14:08:06+00:00

Just be straight forward. I have a gf now but when I was still on apps , I was always just straight forward with the girl

Iistendipshit · 2024-12-14T17:32:03+00:00

You get what you ask for. Sounds like you're timid, because you also abstain from cold approaching. Be direct, be confident, be bold. You will stick out from guys your age, who are likely timid as well.

redditforwilliam · 2024-12-15T03:44:38+00:00

You all have great things to say in this thread. Good job. Very good

wilderburner · 2024-12-15T03:57:43+00:00

Just ask directly, if they decline don't pine for them just move to the next one. Work on yourself too.

yrug8-t · 2024-12-15T07:16:11+00:00

Tinder

Pinhead-Larry27 · 2025-03-30T13:59:20+00:00

Be upfront with them. “Hey look I’m just trying to have some fun, if that’s cool with you then great. If not nbd I totally respect that”

Due_University_7467 · 2025-06-11T16:39:14+00:00

Allo je meurt d'envie de faire l'amour

Impressive-Crap534 · 2024-12-14T17:17:08+00:00

Don't

Title	How can I get hookups instead of dates?
Author	Fancy_Current1821
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Date	December 14, 2024 2:12 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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