How do I escalate?

electric_lime · 2012-12-09T08:32:22+00:00

24f here. That ticklish thing is a tell. Seriously. When I started dating my guy, he would barely touch me and I'd giggle all over the place. Now, after 6 months, it doesn't happen anymore. Why? It's a comfort thing. That cringing feeling you get while being tickled is your body triggering a defense mechanism to shy away from unwanted touching. It's a "personality-based response to perceived attack."

She's shying away from you because she's nervous! And don't assume anything about her history. You can't believe everything you hear in the schoolyard.

You can't take it slow enough. I know that may be agonizing, but don't head for the pants right away - you have other options that are way less 'scary'. Wrists, neck, shoulders. Adore her for a while, then try again.

Brannus · 2012-12-09T05:29:56+00:00

If you want a seduction style of response, I'll try my best to provide one. You are either dealing with not having enough comfrot with this girl or dealing with LMR (last minute resistance). These are VERY similar. However, the big difference is if you are dealing with a lack of comfort with you, then you need to back up a step to get her comfortable enough with you to progress (escalate). Now with LMR, from what I know, you need to freeze her out. When I mean freeze her out is to pretty act VERY nonchalant with this. So when she says you should stop, then you need say that she is right and pretty much turn everything off. You go check your email, or turn on the tv, or something else. If she asks if you are angry, you need to say no in the most sincere and neutral way possible. You should say something about you respect her wishes and don't want to cross the line that she is not willing to cross. Hopefully, she will begin to want the physical connection you were having before you just withdrew all affection. This is just my two cents though.

Here are some links with LMR. Maybe these will be a little more useful than my own suggestion.

http://www.puatraining.com/blog/smash-through-last-minute-resistance-with-any-girl

http://www.venusianarts.com/forum/showthread.php?t=2136

http://www.seductionbase.com/seduction/cat/end/lre/73.html

MyThrowawaySeddit · 2012-12-09T06:32:04+00:00

Next time she stops you, stop doing anything to her. Sit back. Look at her confidently. Ask, "so what's wrong?"

Proceed with normal human interaction.

POOR_IMPULSE_CONTR0L · 2012-12-09T09:13:46+00:00

You likely just have to turn her on more. Some things you can do: Start making out super heavy, where she is really into it, then pull away right at tat moment, she will chase you with her mouth. Then go back to kissing her.

Pull away, and start kissing her cheeks or her neck, getting closer and closer to her lips, make her anticipate it, and want it.

Also, you should always escalate to the breasts first. If you can get her bra off, with a lot of girls, when you start sucking on their breasts, they get a lot more turned on. Especially if you can find the way she most likes it.

The basic princples are these: Make her anticipate it, and want it. Make her come after you for it every once in a while Be very dominant, move her around to different positions, pick her up, etc.

If all of this isn't working, it's because you need more comfort. After a makeout session start talking about your respective childhoods or something...

Also, general rule, you should very rarely go straight for her vagina. You want her grinding on you quite a bit before you go to that.

LukesJukem · 2012-12-09T05:09:27+00:00

Instead of trying to slip your hand in her pants, slip your "head" in her pants. By slip your head in her pants, I mean go down on her. By going down on her, I mean coitus tonguillingus. By coitus tonguillingus, I mean I'm a virgin and don't take my advice.

Title	How do I escalate?
Author	donggg
Upvotes	2
Comments	10
Date	December 9, 2012 5:03 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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