How do i have an opinion? How do i stop the boot licking ass licking seeking approval ??

CleanWholesomePhun · 2018-12-21T15:46:18+00:00

I feel inferior, and i feel like im a cheap person.. i feel like i have a child like, cheap personality..

You feel this way because right now there's not much to you outside of your desire to please others.

You need to have a thing. Something that you love and enjoy for it's own sake... something challenging so that when you do it you feel validated and like you've learned something. The thing can be bodybuilding, rock climbing, music, programming, WHATEVER THE FUCK YOU WANT - it just has to be something for you and it has to be difficult enough that you feel accomplished.

That's the root to not feeling inferior. There's more stuff after, but start there.

Also, don't reply back telling me that you can't or I'll fucking roast you.

hunterpua · 2018-12-21T16:44:05+00:00

This is easy. Its because you're chasing the approval!

Its extremely easy to have your own opinions, just have your own opinions!

All of us naturally gravitate towards different preferences and ideas. Your problem is not that you don't have any opinions, your problem is that you're worried whether your opinions will be well received so you try to alter yourself in the hopes that you'll get people to like you.

Its your attempts at being loved that are actually hindering you from having your own opinions.

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Here's something that you need to realize: If you want to be loved then then be ready to be hated.

Donald Trump.

Conor McGregor.

Floyd Mayweather.

Kim Kardashian.

Those are just a few people that virtually everyone has a strong opinion on. The mere mention of the name Donald Trump can get people seriously riled up but at the same time there are also legions of people who are ardent supporters of him and genuinely believe that he is what America needs.

You see just reading what I wrote there is enough to stir up all kinds of intense emotions in you.

I bet it made you a little uncomfortable or if you support Trump then you threw your fist in the air and gave a "Hell yeah!"

You rarely ever get someone who is just straight up indifferent towards him.

Do you know why?

The things that Trump does that frustrate the fuck out of his haters are the things that his fans absolutely adore.

Trump is actually not pandering for hate nor is he pandering for adoration. He's just being as much of himself as he can and instead of trying to hide or shrink that, he blows it up to insane proportions.

The same is true for Floyd, Kim Kardashian, and Conor.

In fact Conor has a quote that is very fitting to this:

"Listen, I've spent a lot of time Joe, slatin' everybody in the company. Backstage I'm starting fights [with] everybody, I've ridiculed everyone on the roster and I just want to say from the bottom of me heart...I'd like to take this chance to apologize to absolutely nobody! The double champ does what the fuck he wants!"

To some people he sounds like a fucking dick but listen to the crowd reaction when he says that. They go nuts for the man.

You will never please everyone and you'll never be loved by playing all sides because people are different, we all have different opinions, beliefs, cultures, and upbringings.

You need to decide what truly resonates with you and then fully embrace that and that alone.

You can't just look at ice cream and say, "I like chocolate but I also like vanilla and strawberry and Stark Raving Hazelnuts and a Hunk of Hulk of Burning Fudge and whatever..."

Because the chocolate fans will say, "Eh, he kinda likes chocolate so I guess he's alright" the vanilla fans will say the same and the strawberry fans will say the same as well.

If you play all sides people will not love you, they'll just be ok with you because you kinda like their flavor but you lose points for kinda liking other flavors too.

Being ok with you is just one step short of not giving a shit about you.

If you instead said, "Stark Raving Hazelnuts is the shit, you'll only get me to eat other flavors by force feeding me!" everyone else that loves the other flavors will want your head but the Stark Raving Hazelnut fans will adore you.

If you want to be loved then never compromise on your beliefs and preferences. If there is something you feel like saying, say it. If there is something you love, flaunt it. If there is something you believe in with your heart of hearts then preach it like you are 100% sure that it is the way.

Whenever you think about saying or doing something that might piss off some people be very excited, because that means on the other end of the spectrum there are people who are loving the shit out of you.

throwawaymemedaddy · 2018-12-21T18:26:57+00:00

Step One

have an opinion

SUCK_MY_DICTIONARY · 2018-12-21T19:47:20+00:00

Simple, start producing content. Make comments on every video. Make comments on reddit. The more you do it, the more you realize the economy behind it. A comment on a post with 8 upvotes has way more potential value than a comment on a post with 32k upvotes. Nobody is sorting the latter by new, but the former you will be one of only a few comments.

There is no trick to where everything you say gets 1000 upvotes, or likes, or whatever. You throw shit at the wall and see what sticks. Eventually you get better at knowing what to say, and how to say it.

Keep in mind, this also helps in person. If you get really good at commenting or producing content, you can absolutely slay in real life by always being the guy who has the right words at the right time.

Think of your anger this way: the same people who upvoted that comment, would upvote your comment. Getting mad at his comment is like getting mad at that audience. Being mad at that audience, means they won’t like you and will never like what you produce. Instead, start “looking up” to that guy you hate. It’s tough but you have to learn to do it. Maybe you know in your heart you can do better, but for now set that aside. As you get better, then you start folding in the things you think are new and creative. You gotta learn that no group in life will let you walk in off the street and take over the president position. Only when you start speaking their language will they elevate you.

Title	How do i have an opinion? How do i stop the boot licking ass licking seeking approval ??
Author	bawan15
Upvotes	0
Comments	8
Date	December 21, 2018 3:41 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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