How do I manage loneliness better so that it doesn’t disrupt my life?

Puzzleheaded-Yak6613 · 2022-10-23T03:21:19+00:00

travel bro. trust me.

recyclablebanthas · 2022-10-23T05:38:04+00:00

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How do I manage loneliness better so that it doesn’t disrupt my life?

It's unfortunate but much of the seduction community is so focused on the part about getting laid that they neglect looking at their lives in a holistic way. Life isn't just about sex, obviously. And if you neglect too many of those other things, you're going to have a bad time.

In this case, the thing you might be neglecting is the development and maintenance of a healthy social life. That's really the only way to deal with loneliness.

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I’m not asking for anyone to feel sorry for me at all, I just want to know how to better deal with loneliness because it’s always been a constant theme in my life and I’m almost 30 and still haven’t been able to change it. I have no one to communicate with and I feel like its damaging me and making my life worse because of how disconnected I am from normal people. What do you suggest I do to have a better grip on this because it’s ruining my life.

This is a super common issue. Our culture doesn't do a very good job of passing on basic social skills and a lot of people end up graduating high school without any idea how to create a social life for themselves. Yet, we are social creatures who require social connection to be healthy.

This can be a pretty easy thing to fix though. There are practical things you can do.

Go to a social media platform like Facebook.
Do a search for the city or area where you live.
Look in the groups tab to see what groups are in your area and if they have any regular events.
Look at the events tabs to see if there are any special events being held in your area.
If you're getting too many results with just the city/area, then narrow it down by adding a hobby/activity/interest to the search.

The overall point is that there are people out there who are creating groups specifically so that people can meet people. There's no reason for you to reinvent the wheel.

You just go find a group that someone else has made. Try something new. Find a group that has events every week. It'll be a little uncomfortable but try out some groups until you find one or two that you like going to.

And the upside is that you'll be building up your basic social skills while learning to get comfortable meeting new people on a regular basis every week. This can help you with cold approach if you decide you want to do that as well on the side.

And you will also meet new women on a regular basis if you have a good mix of groups that see a lot of traffic in new people.

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If you want to travel, go for it, but traveling all by itself is not going to magically level up your social skills. If you travel without good social skills, you can have just as bad a time as you're having right now.

But if you're going to try it out, you might try staying in hostels.

Check out the reviews and do research on places you want to stay.
Make sure the hostel is one that gets good reviews on the topic of the events they organize or the design of the place encouraging social interaction.

As for which places are the best places to go, that really depends on so many factors. There's no magic bullet here. Some people are going to say that you can go to Thailand and it's really easy but other people complain that they can't get laid there: it's not really the place so much as the person and how they fit there.

TheGamingAnimator · 2022-10-23T23:41:33+00:00

I think we are in a similar boat. The other day I saw people who I thought were my friends having fun without me.And I'm not mad at them for it,but that's when I felt the sting and realized that I've mistaken acquaintance with friendship. Usually ,I'm the one that suggests that we hang, the one reaching out,but they never do. I wouldn't say that I'm disconnected, I share things in common with them,but I'm usually the one on the outside.

Don't have any communication issues that I know of.

I try to focus on other aspects of life like fitness and trying to achieve financial freedom,but when that loneliness hits,it hits hard.

g3wb3r · 2022-10-24T04:59:28+00:00

Go outside
Talk to random people

2022-10-23T07:03:51+00:00

Develop hobbies and interests

atomant88 · 2022-10-23T08:07:01+00:00

what does this have to do with pickup?

KetchupClinic · 2022-10-23T06:00:11+00:00

Stay busy, join some social extra curriculars. Now im usually thinking what class or event do i drop in the evening so i can go on this date. Or when should i take a rest day or skip a workout. I work a lot but spend my time off staying active with my hobbies, having too much to do and that works really well.

Bessiejaker420 · 2022-10-23T10:51:15+00:00

Get some online friends, there are so many social platforms out there to try out.

r_gui · 2022-10-23T11:04:05+00:00

Try to make connections wherever you go. I mean WHEREEVER. Yes, even on here. Also feel free to join communities and work on yourself. The rest will just fall in place(mostly).

mjornir · 2022-10-23T19:03:31+00:00

Do things that make you happy and make you think. And that’s genuinely happy, not just providing you with a dopamine rush

Jadiv · 2022-10-23T23:10:56+00:00

If you love music try to go to a festival in the summer but let yourself go by the music.

In the meantime read tons of books and work on your health / fitness. Eat right and learn how to cook

Doctor0z · 2022-10-23T23:22:08+00:00

Loneliness is the leading cause of death worldwide. Just socialize man. Dog parks, bars, events, etc. Be vulnerable and start talking to people.

Hinata778 · 2022-10-23T23:43:14+00:00

I recently joined lot of classes and social groups for activity. Where you meet like minded people. Go for plays, movies, hikes etc. I joined some classes to learn new skills. Most of my evenings weekends are now busy. Many people ask you to try something new with them. It’s a learning process. I stopped thinking about being alone, and just started to go out on my own. Cinema? Plays? Music anywhere just go out there and enjoy for yourself. In the process I have met so many people and made so many good friends. Good luck op.

PotentialLaw424 · 2022-10-23T23:50:41+00:00

Download meet up

skyman583 · 2022-10-24T01:57:17+00:00

Coat you’re mind with gratitude and you’ll never feel lonely again. Trust.

Title	How do I manage loneliness better so that it doesn’t disrupt my life?
Author	Lonely_Man22
Upvotes	9
Comments	23
Date	October 23, 2022 3:03 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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