How do I stop acting like a friend and instead start flirting?

YioUio · 2016-11-02T12:38:50+00:00

Start talking about intimate topics.

Start looking in eyes.

Touch her while laughing.

Start a conversation with other girls. (IMPORTANT)!

Kiss her.

yellekeoj · 2016-11-02T12:22:33+00:00

Physical escalation, touch them on shoulder, arms, back, then move to lower back, hands, stomach.... Etc Make good eye contact, lead them around(especially by grabbing their hand) stuff like that

Just physically escalate

yuyo874 · 2016-11-02T12:22:22+00:00

Play a game with yourself of faking it until you make it. Try different things that you have not tried before and see what different outcomes it brings you. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. Do you escalate kino? What is your definition of flirting?

typtyphus · 2016-11-02T14:02:16+00:00

Might seem unrelated but; Having a job being waiter or bartender. At the workfloor behind everyone is flirty towards coworkers and I picked that behaviour up over time. But that's only half the step. But atleast the behaviour is natural.

Another tip I got from this sub was "It's only awkward if you make it awkward". At a party I flirted with a friend of a friend, ended up with her number. A few weeks later we met again at a party of friend's friend's place. And that was when I remembered that tip. Awkward momemt avoided.

thetahill · 2016-11-02T16:49:06+00:00

Break the ice with a fun tease. Flirting is ultimately teasing/joking back and forth in a fun and sexually charged way. This is why so many guys fail at it: we are used to keeping things on a rational and serious level.

If they are gathered around you (as you say they do), pick one out and jokingly say (while touching her slightly), "whoa, back off; don't get too close to the merchandise" or "hey, get in line; I think she (point to another girl) was first." Make sure you say it while having fun and with a cocky smile.

It isn't fake. It's fun. Flirting is a game. Have fun with it.

Vistian · 2016-11-02T21:14:48+00:00

You're actually being "fake" by not expressing your true intentions to them. Be comfortable being a sexual being who wants to sleep with women and stop being ashamed of that. Combine that with the fact that you sound like a kind person and you'll slay (more than you did before).

Synj3d · 2016-11-02T23:16:53+00:00

A method my friend use to use would go as follows: "You're beautiful no"?

This was ingenious way of hitting on women cause they are only going to say no if they're not into you or have very low self confidence. It is a useful tool to help you gauge where you stand with the woman your talking to.

zombie_tunes · 2016-11-02T18:13:20+00:00

To people in this thread saying "physical escalation":

When I flirt with girls and try to touch them, I feel as though they are totally put off by it, whether if they just stop vibing and walk away, or if they legitimately get really nervous or frightened.

Admittedly, I really need to work on making it more smooth and confident, but currently dancing salsa isn't quite cutting it. How would I go about achieving this?

stonedshrimp · 2016-11-02T18:04:58+00:00

Keep doing what you do, just be more obvious with your intention in the way like /u/yellekeoj says.

razorblazer420 · 2016-11-02T13:13:02+00:00

Just be honest. If you like her/think she's pretty/wanna be with her, just say that shit, literally nothing to lose there.

scrotalimplosion · 2016-11-02T19:10:52+00:00

Grabber by the possy.

But in all seriousness. Just grab your balls, be honest, and tell her how you feel about her. Or rather, how she makes you feel. Be open and hopeful. If it doesn't go well, move on and be ok with yourself.

teabagabeartrap · 2016-11-02T12:49:50+00:00

find out what type she is: -acoustic -optic -feeling

you can find this out by adjectives she uses often. or verbs..

in a dark wood... is she calling about the sounds, the stars or the darkness?

Then do physical escalation PLUS go down the road that is her thing.

if she is acoustic, watch yourself to use a deep manly voice near to her ear.. "look over there" get near to her ear and whisper things.

if optical... then dress especial good and show her art you found online and appreciate

and if the is the feeling type, then cook for her and hold her warm on cold days.

this is how you can get it...

but usual warning: be yourself. that works the best on the long run!

RedPillAlphaBigCock · 2016-11-02T20:22:38+00:00

It's all in the eye contact - When you talk to a girl, look at her like you want to devour her. If you fap a lot - try /r/NoFap it will increase the desire

lamchopxl71 · 2016-11-02T22:00:51+00:00

You have to tease them and create sexual tension. Talk about sex. Talk about her body. Share dates ideas and stories. This can be done in a group setting when you're around all girls as well if you pull it off properly. As always, when you talk about sex, keep a straight face and NEVER apologize or say you were kidding, they know you're kidding but at the same time they know you're not.

monkeyman114 · 2016-11-02T23:58:30+00:00

When you pretend to be her friend you are lying and why would a girl trust a liar?

Kibitz117 · 2016-11-08T03:28:18+00:00

Start being playful and make witty remarks. Also light hearted sarcasm will be your best friend

Czekraft · 2016-11-02T18:42:10+00:00

Calling them silly nicknames. I'm in a 10 month relationship right now and while we were reminiscing back she said things started getting sexual when I called her a "blood slut" after she told me she likes to donate blood. "Fit bitch" is another she likes. If they are laughing after being called something dirty or insulting, then you're flirting.

mad-n-fla · 2016-11-02T14:35:38+00:00

Try Medical Tequila

Title	How do I stop acting like a friend and instead start flirting?
Author	DSMA
Upvotes	154
Comments	38
Date	November 2, 2016 11:44 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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