I’m at a point where I think looks matter most. Scared to approach women at bars cuz they’re always in groups with hotter dudes. Tinder I match with women who aren’t attractive. When I switch to men then sure but I’m not gay. Yet hinge and everything I match with only fat women. It’s bad but as a short dude who has a deformed nose and voice impediment I have a hard time thinking I can get with beautiful women and compete with dudes who are better looking and better personality. I KNOW confidence matters but it’s hard.