How do you create fun?

youngHABITAT · 2012-03-04T10:45:15+00:00

You kind of have to gain momentum. Some people drink, some warm up by talking to strangers (guys/girls). Whatever gets it going.

Once your in the zone, you'll start to have real fun.

Think of Kobe (or any basketball star). You miss and miss in the beginning (cold). But once you get that first shot in, you start feeling it. You keep that rhythm. And next thing you know.. your on fire.

Marsupian · 2012-03-04T12:58:10+00:00

I think the first thing you have to learn is how to amuse yourself at all times. It's not that difficult (at least for me), I just smile a lot and think about how happy and awesome I am. Being able to put yourself in the right mood or "state" at any time and in any place is really important imo.

Usually when you show others you are having fun it will sort of catch on. When you have put yourself in the right mood and are amusing yourself you can amuse others by talking to them, dancing or proposing something fun to do. The last one will also establish yourself as the leader on that moment which makes you more alpha. A lot of it is situational but things to think about are challenges, social games, bets, moving somewhere, grabbing a bite or getting a drink etc. Make sure that whatever you propose is easy to say yes too, fun and in line with the goals of everyone or the vast majority of the group you are with.

Still amusing yourself is by far the most important step and everything you do to amuse others should firstly also amuse yourself. Doing something solely for people around you is not alpha at all. It will just make you look like a joker.

frogma · 2012-03-04T18:37:27+00:00

Like the Jim Carrey movie, be a "Yes Man." Say yes to every opportunity, whether it's something presented to you, or something you think of yourself. So when you're in a situation where nothing's happening- let's say you're with some guys playing videogames- think to yourself "What could be more fun than this?"

There's a bunch of different answers to that question if you're creative. If you guys haven't eaten in a bit, it might be "more fun" to go get something to eat. If the game's "boring," it might be fun to start a drinking game based on it, or maybe get some bets on it (like if it's super smash bros, start betting on various things, like how many times donkey kong can do his little twister move to beat everyone else, or other random shit like that). Or just start making jokes during the game. Basically anything that you think can make it more fun, do those things. Doesn't really matter what it is.

A big thing I do is- let's say people are just playing a videogame like smash bros- I'll be the first to say "Hey, let's get a game of darts/pong/foosball going," and then me and 1 or 2 other people will start doing that instead. Then before you know it, you've got multiple people coming to participate in your shit instead of the more boring shit.

Doesn't just apply to when you're playing videogames- it applies to basically anything. Maybe kids are playing soccer out on some field- you're not really involved in it, so then you suggest that we should grab that football over in the corner and start a game of tag-football, or 500, or something along those lines. People will join you unless you're a little bitch about it. Just assert it with confidence.

Or if you're doing nothing at all- maybe walking down the street- think of how you can make that more fun. Think of some game you can make out of it. Maybe "first one to spot a bum," or "count the tourists," or some other random shit like that. Or do the "standard" shit like fuck, marry, kill- or where you look at someone and make up a backstory about them. All of that shit is more fun than simply walking around doing nothing.

woeisyou · 2012-03-04T16:57:04+00:00

Compliments are an easy way - don't obviously be sucking up but giving someone a genuine compliment about something brings the energy up.

Jokes and fun stories are another way. Tell a fun story about something crazy that happened to you.

Go around and make sure people are having a good time, just try to bring people up.

blinkyone · 2012-03-04T21:10:09+00:00

Work on your own interests and hobbies to build your own fun as a single guy. I wouldn't try to study or learn how to create fun for the sake of girls. You'll do things that you think would be fun for time, thus you'll play catch up and become outcome dependent. Get to the point where you can lead a girl and show her your own fun. At the end of the day, the females are mostly not going seduce you up.

Seduction and self-improvement should revolve around you, not the girl.

TheMangoPeople · 2012-03-05T04:18:02+00:00

This is a great question. I'd like to see TofuTofu or some of the other mods/experienced people post about how they do this.

One of my friends is very good at this. This is what I've observed he does:

He smiles a lot. He's always happy to see you, and it's never fake.
He's not judgmental. You can share anything with him.
He's interested in what you have to say. If he doesn't know what you're talking about, he will ask you questions with a child-like sense of enthusiasm and curiosity.
He's relaxed. It takes a lot to get him worked up. He can be amusing, but because he's relaxed he doesn't seem like a dancing monkey.
He always says what's on his mind, but he's not negative. I don't know how he does this.

What a charismatic guy.

throwaway9375 · 2012-03-04T16:42:43+00:00

Best way to start is by not being negative. Don't be the person in the group who complains that they're bored or that they're not having fun. Try to make the best of any situation.

fragglemook · 2012-03-04T16:57:09+00:00

"All the worlds a stage, all the people merely players. " -Shakespeare paraphrase; You act, perform, behave in funny and interesting ways. Role play. Tell stories/jokes. Challenge others to do so. Entertain yourself, then others.

JohnnyAngel · 2012-03-04T17:54:00+00:00

Dont be afraid to be uncomfortable. Dangerous is cool. The dude who mentioned warming up is aces! Google the news before you go out just to have some hooks to talk about. Now get out there and practice.

2012-03-04T23:02:08+00:00

All the comments here make great points. I think it depends on who you are personally. For example me, I usually like to think of other moments in my life when I had fun like inner jokes, funny stories etc. When you place those thoughts in your head, you begin to feel some harmony and develop a zone. When you're in this zone, you feel like you are living in the moment and just start to mention a few spontaneous things but overall it's about having good conversation, giving value to others, listening to them, and a couple of jokes here and there help alot. They begin to feel good around you and in turn you feel like you're having fun around them. If you stay in this zone then you begin to develop your own fun. If you need more elaboration, just let me know.

rmbarnes · 2012-03-04T17:12:33+00:00

No, what you quoted isn't awesome. It's an over the top caricature, and one that isn't required to anything like that extent in order to get laid. It just puts many people of because they feel they can never live up to it.

2012-03-05T00:06:12+00:00

Easy mode: drugs.

Touch girls, make them laugh, dance, social things you see guys doing to girls. Great topic btw, I will have to learn to do this more often too. I sometimes stand in the corner like a dumbass.

Title	How do you create fun?
Author	chamukag
Upvotes	39
Comments	14
Date	March 4, 2012 10:28 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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