How do you get back on track?

cd-CaptSlash · 2019-11-29T06:00:35+00:00

Lift weights and nail a fat chick and you are back on your way.

SithLordJediMaster · 2019-11-29T06:04:37+00:00

"There’s a lot of advice on attracting women out there. And what most of it misses is that attraction, seduction, intimacy, sex, whatever you want to call it — is an emotional process, not a physical or social one. You can say the “wrong” things and still attract a woman. You can say all of the “right” things and repel her. What matters is the intention, the motivation, the authenticity. To improve your dating life, you must improve your emotional life — how you feel about yourself and others, how you express yourself to others, etc.

It’s not about learning lines or routines or dressing up a certain way. It’s about unmasking the unique and attractive man within yourself and joyfully expressing it to the women of the world."

"What’s I’m saying is this: you’ll find a lot of varying advice out there on how to attract women — some will say to tease them, some will say to be selfish and rude around them, some will say to buy them gifts, others will say to be cold and calculating — whichever of these avenues you choose to pursue with women, that is the corresponding relationship you’ll create."

"I believe that status in a male is determined by his behavior. Outward displays of status can create opportunities (cars, money, nice clothes), but don’t create lasting attraction themselves. They are the effects of high status behavior, not the causes.

Sexual attraction from women is determined by status, status is determined by behavior, and what determines whether a man has attractive behavior or not is his perception of himself relative to those around him, particularly women. I refer to this concept as neediness and believe the degree of a man’s neediness around women will determine how attractive or unattractive his behavior around them will be."

"When all is said and done, all attractive traits in a man can be traced back to his lack of neediness."

"If status creates sexual attraction in women, then demonstration of desire creates sexual arousal in women."

"But what does this mean for a couple regular guys like you and me?

It means being nervous around her is going to be a pretty big turn off. Afraid to talk to her, afraid to ask her out, afraid to kiss her, afraid to take her home — Fabio the Firefighter wouldn’t be afraid to ravish the shit of her, so why should you?

What it means is that despite every woman you’ve ever heard complain about men hitting on them, bold displays of interest actually work in your favor the majority of the time, as long as they’re demonstrated in a manner that is not too threatening or disrespectful."

"You should adopt non-needy behaviors because you care about yourself and want to improve yourself. Attracting women should be a side-effect of that desire.

If you attempt to adopt non-needy behaviors in an attempt to impress others, you are still being needy. You are faking it, and you will eventually be exposed. The only way to develop a genuine attraction through women is by genuinely investing in yourself."

"This is an internal and emotional process, not an external behavioral one. The external behaviors are an internal side effect, not the cause of the attraction."

Radicalmattitude1 · 2019-11-29T07:12:42+00:00

Getting out of relationships is hard for everyone. No matter how hard you try to stay independent in the relationship, boundaries dissolve and you become reliant on your gfs validation to an extent. Not to mention your lives being tangled together through mutual friends, living situation, common activities etc.

Here’s what happens:, your *identity * becomes defined in part by that relationship.

When you breakup, it feels like you don’t have an identity anymore. Sometimes you don’t even know who you are.

Your job is to find out who you are when you’re on your own, to** redefine your identity**.

To do this, you have to 1. work on yourself constantly and 2. just do shit that you want to do.

Working on yourself could be lifting weights, reading educational books, working on your business, taking courses, eating healthy, cleaning your apartment. I would recommend doing nothing but self improvement for like 2 months straight honestly. Doing this stuff gives you self confidence.It might not be a popular opinion on here, but there’s no point in hitting on girls until you feel half decent about your life and have an idea of who you are as a man. Just take a couple months to tighten your life up and focus on yourself.

The second thing is to do shit that you want to do. Say what you want, act how you want, go to the places that you want, interact with the people that you want. This might be harder than it sounds because it’s very likely that you compromised your true desires in some way to keep the relationship running smooth. Now, when you’re out there on your own, you have to dig deep and ask yourself wtf you really want to do with your time.

Being single is your chance to just get out there and explore. Try picking cool events, invite people to come along, and if no one wants to go with you, just go alone. Learn how to laugh and have fun on your own, allow yourself to have opinions that nobody around you agrees with.

Just get comfortable being alone if you have to. It’s much better to be by yourself than to be around losers or people that you don’t like.

Once you do these two things for like 2 - 4 months, I guarantee that you’ll have a good sense of who you are and exactly what kind of life you’ll be inviting girls into.

From here you just have to add one more thing into your life, game. How you get good at game is simple:taking consistent action, even when you don’t feel like it.

You have to train your brain to automatically approach beautiful women with sexual intent.

This means that when you go out for the day or for the night or wherever you are, follow the three second rule and force yourself to talk to her.

If you can do this with consistency, you will build up a mental habit for that kind of behaviour and be one of the few men out there that is actually “in the game”. Joining a dorky social club and asking out a couple girls a month doesn’t count as gaming in my opinion, that’s the average chods version of dating.

Once you’ve laid the ground work for getting your life on track, and built up a mental habit for approaching women, now you can actually work on “improving your game”. This is where all the cool tactics and strategies will actually help. It’s crazy how many people don’t build a foundation before trying to do game. It’s just going to make it way harder and less effective.

Hope this helps, here’s a recap: 1. rebuild confidence through self inprovement 2. Do shit that you want to do 3. start approaching women consistently even when you don’t feel like it

Don’t take any timeline I’ve set out as law. If you feel like it’s time to pimp it after a month, do it. Maybe you decide to work on all three steps at the same time. Whatever works for you. This is all based on what worked for me after a bad breakup so at the end of the day it’s your own journey, good luck .

its_going_down_ · 2019-11-29T08:28:23+00:00

Remember that game goes on in a relationship

SithLordJediMaster · 2019-11-29T05:54:40+00:00

Read this: https://markmanson.net/attract-women

Then get Mark Manson's books:

Models: Attract Women Throug Honesty

The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F**k

Everything Is F**ked

ethereal_girl123 · 2019-11-29T06:04:44+00:00

Go on dating apps, start talking to lots of girls and dating to gain more experience. Eventually you’ll break out of your comfort zone and start getting your game back! Takes time and effort but also patience!!

Hubblenobbin · 2019-11-29T06:39:57+00:00

Currently doing it after being out of the game for 7 years.

https://www.reddit.com/r/askseddit/comments/dw2v4n/comment/f7gm83b

My game is getting tighter than it's ever been. I recommend finding a download for Hotseat at Home and approaching a few girls per day.

Title	How do you get back on track?
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Date	November 29, 2019 5:36 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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