How do you stop from getting sad/bitter when other guys have it so much easier?

grrinchas · 2020-02-03T00:02:41+00:00

Don’t compare yourself with others.

Compare your current self with previous self. Hopefully it is better :D

2020-02-03T03:00:10+00:00

when other guys have it so much easier?

You don't know random strangers, you don't know what they've been through. The difference between them and you is that they aren't spending their free time seething over other people for their own shortcomings.

sogayking2020 · 2020-02-03T00:29:54+00:00

take your excuses and throw em out. you wasting valuable time.

no matter what your situation, you can improve it.

Stop bitcing

YwUt_83RJF · 2020-02-03T01:28:53+00:00

You sound depressed. Seek help from the many charitable resources available in the world. Whether a girl likes some other guy is not your most urgent concern.

Deez05 · 2020-02-03T02:00:23+00:00

What’s the point of worrying about that? There’s people that are better than you at every aspect of life not just picking up women. I’m not gonna stop hiking or working just cause there are people that hike the whole Appalachian trail or because there are people that rank above me in my field

yeehawdolphins · 2020-02-03T00:45:45+00:00

With a pessimistic attutide like that, why would a girl go out of her way for you? Youre looking at it all wrong man. Develop yourself into the confident, guy you want to be. Stop focussing on women liking you. There is way more to life than their approval. Your setting yourself up to become a floor mat to a bitch that will treat you like shit out there. Improve your job skills, get into better shape, pick up hobbies and get out there. You will see that the girls will show up, bjt youll be too busy enjoying your own life. Let them work for you.

ChelseaDagger14 · 2020-02-03T00:27:08+00:00

There are guys less attractive, poorer and less socially skilled than me and that can apply to everyone

Sakura48 · 2020-02-03T01:36:02+00:00

Do you understand why he is attractive to woman? Did you try to apply some of his traits to your action?

easeonsun · 2020-02-03T01:43:45+00:00

Stop thinking with your emotions and think logically. Read this post that was posted today: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/exsum3/if_you_ever_need_a_confidence_boost/

At the end of the day you are in control of your thoughts

KittyJerky · 2020-02-03T02:21:53+00:00

From reading your replies to others it sounds like you have a negative attitude on life. Honestly, that’s fine. But if you’re not where you want to be in life go out and change it. Develop yourself. Read books, workout, learn to dress yourself/ present yourself nice, learn social skills, listen to podcasts. It’s easy to say “Oh other people have it so easy.” instead of taking a hard look at yourself. How you think reflects in everything you do. So if you’re thinking negatively like this and feeling like a victim then it’s going to show to women. Why would they want to associate with that? Why would anyone? To summarize, work on yourself. You’re sad/bitter for a reason. Realize that you’re not where you want to be but put in the effort to change that. No one is going to do the work for you. Tim Ferris and Jordan Harbinger have great guests on their podcasts on personal development and you can find a lot of authors as guests on there. Books I’d recommend to you would be Models by Mark Manson, No More Mr. Nice Guy, and How To Win Friends and Influence People. The Magic of Thinking Big is a good one as well. I wish you well on your journey friend.

smoothmax · 2020-02-03T16:09:15+00:00

Looking back on my more successful buddies I don't think they had it all that easy. They fucked more but they still had girl problems ... couldn't get certain hot girls they wanted, were always trying to cover their tracks because they weren't honest with chicks, and even had STD scares.

I still envied them, but nowadays since I started learning game I am completely happy with my own success relative to myself, not compared to anyone else. And frankly when you've learned game for a couple of years unless you're really active with other players and coaches you're going to meet very, very few other guys who are better at game than you. Jealousy barely happens ... more like bemused tolerance.

OctoberRain88 · 2020-02-04T13:42:44+00:00

I would have agreed with you if i hadnt seen different but i had a friend in high school, short as fuck I mean like 5'4 bad teeth and balding. I shit you not he got many girls. He was also the biggest liar i ever met but i dont know if that related wit him being good with girls

Title	How do you stop from getting sad/bitter when other guys have it so much easier?
Author	lmsta77
Upvotes	5
Comments	58
Date	February 2, 2020 11:40 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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