How does improving yourself make you less nervous with women?

sedditforthewin · 2014-07-09T05:03:46+00:00

So this is a weird phenomenon and one of the most interesting to me in pickup.

When you approach a lot of girls and do it consistently, you steadily become more loose when talking to girls, care less about what happens, and assume the best more often. Your voice opens up, your body language improves, and you feel less social anxiety. You just become more confident. The effect is pronounced and rapid to the point that it seems to be less you learning how to be social, and more a mammelian impulse that if you can flirt with females without being punched in the face, you must be alpha.

The community lingo for this is Social Momentum. Go look it up in the RSD youtube videos to learn more about it.

I think the idea of "don't be outcome dependent" or "stop being needy" is bullshit. If you haven't had sex in a year and you have a shot, you're going to be a little pushy. Warmups and social momentum, along with a couple fundamentals take the edge off.

AntixD · 2014-07-09T04:54:13+00:00

the rise in confidence will be extremely attractive,they like the challenge of trying to 'win' you

BoberJr · 2014-07-09T10:41:09+00:00

You are needy and every approach makes you less needy. simple science

omarm1984 · 2014-07-09T12:50:40+00:00

You dont have to be non needy to approach women, you have to be non needy to ATTRACT women. You become non needy by approaching a lot of women. At first you will be very nervous so you will fail a lot, but after opening a number of sets you will fail less and less.

joshsway · 2014-07-09T14:27:01+00:00

You don't have to do anything to approach but simply approach!

Tony15339 · 2014-07-09T05:00:19+00:00

Well most of the nervousness when approaching women (for a lot of people at least) is out of being unsure of yourself/lack of confidence. People tell themselves "Damn she's gorgeous, there's no way I'm good looking enough for her." Or "I'd rather not approach her, I'm not interesting enough of a person to keep a good conversation going." It's all about building confidence in yourself, when your confident your less nervous! So do some volunteer work, learn to play an instrument, travel, work out, dress better, groom better, and/or learn to portray yourself better. These things will build your confidence in who you are, and naturally you will feel more ease talking to women.

Title	How does improving yourself make you less nervous with women?
Author	Neverd0wn
Upvotes	7
Comments	8
Date	July 9, 2014 4:10 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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