How does one go about seducing a coworker/supervisor?

randomcluster · 2026-03-01T17:19:44+00:00

Great idea if you hate having a job and actively want to get fired

JackSquirts · 2026-03-01T17:26:34+00:00

2 of my 3 LTR's, including marriage came from work along with a bazillion girlfriends, FWB, and hookups. Might be the place where I've done the most damage so to say.

The absolute number one thing is to evaluate your prospect very carefully before doing a damn thing. You need to know enough about her to reasonably be able to assume she's not a total fucking whackjob. The only time I've seen office romances go really bad (like causing scenes, HR involvement, physical altercations, etc) is when someone ignores some major red flags about the person they should have caught.

In general, you slowly initiate flirting and look for an opportunity to socialize outside of work. If she's very receptive to flirting, you just ask her out. If you can't tell, put together a happy hour or something and invite her along with a bunch of other people. There, you socialize as normal, but make an attempt to get a little one-on-one conversation going. If she's interested and you do a decent job, eventually it'll just be you two like nobody else is there. My ex-wife got me via planning happy hours (specifically to get me lol).

With a coworker, it's pretty easy. You're on the same level and if you're shot down, no big deal, move on like it never happened. With a supervisor, you take exactly the same approach, but you have to be really careful of the flirting. Baby steps. As for a subordinate, you basically have to wait for them to initiate. You can flirt a tiny bit, but never blindly. You have to be feeling the vibe to even think about attempting it and again, tread very lightly.

agroupofone · 2026-03-01T17:27:18+00:00

"Hi, I just quit, wanna date?"

Certain_Process_7657 · 2026-03-01T21:00:04+00:00

Yeah I've asked out a handful from offices I've worked at. Just look for the ring and treat it like any other cold approach pretty much. Gauge receptiveness and go from there. Only rule I have is not dating people from my exact same department.

If there's over a thousand people where you work, it's not really all that different than meeting at a coffee shop.

ComradeCam · 2026-03-02T03:55:30+00:00

Work in retail. You'll have people from 18-45 wanting to hook up.

ChicoBrillo · 2026-03-01T22:00:17+00:00

it doesnt ALWAYS end bad, but it often does. Make sure its not somebody you have to interact with every day or work alongside with. I've hooked up with various coworkers but the worst was when I was a bartender and hooked up with a server.

It was fine but then she got promoted to bartending and next thing I knew we were working side by side trapped behind a bar all night like three times a week. It got weird and toxic fast.

k9thedog · 2026-03-01T23:27:05+00:00

One doesn't.

DoubleRedDizzy · 2026-03-02T04:50:35+00:00

You don’t.

jackthehat6 · 2026-03-01T18:06:48+00:00

same as you would any other girl. Be her type and flirt. If it's reciprocated (i.e you're her type/she thinks you're hot), make plans to date

I know everyone here will be like 'you're gonna be homeless' but at least where i live in the UK, literally like 80% of relationships/marriages began at work. I've had my share of work hookups myself. Never an issue

BeautifulAd7529 · 2026-03-02T03:10:22+00:00

You dont

him_dunkin · 2026-03-02T04:00:14+00:00

If you choose to do it make sure they from another department and nobody that you ever have to work with directly in your work flow

clawhatesyou · 2026-03-02T05:14:20+00:00

Bad idea, but If you HAVE to do this... Step 1 is to get him or her in a social setting away from work. Could be one on one or group. If they won't even bite on that, you don't have a chance.

Fashiony_Throwaway · 2026-03-02T23:58:57+00:00

Coworkers: I don't recommend it, but (if you must) stick to relatively equal positions in DIFFERENT departments. The less work interactions to cause drama, the better. Just be warned, there is almost always a risk of being fired for fraternization.

Supervisors/Subordinates: Hard no. Could easily lead to all kinds of ethical issues, potentially legal (depending on company/location). Only possible exception is one of you gets promoted AFTER you've gone steady, but then the company might try to transfer or push one of you out for their own liability.

Good luck, soldier 🫡

Chilledshiney · 2026-03-01T22:23:42+00:00

HR complaint to pipe speed run

thenuttyhazlenut · 2026-03-01T19:25:10+00:00

Stupid immature stuff. Is your ambition to become a bum? Always prioritize your work.

Nyx-thex-829 · 2026-03-02T02:55:01+00:00

I caught myself trying to seduce my manager and we were getting close but I didn't feel okay with that and it definitely was wrong so I immediately took action aaanndd left the job 😂 Trust me it's the worst thing u can do especially if you are still new in the company/hospital or whatever place you are in and not in a valuable position. Don't take that move and just treat them professionally, nothing else or you will regret that :"

Title	How does one go about seducing a coworker/supervisor?
Author	Appropriate-Mall8517
Upvotes	55
Comments	33
Date	March 1, 2026 5:13 PM UTC (4 months ago)
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