How important is being aggressive, and how far can you go?

revente · 2016-11-10T09:33:32+00:00

It all depends on the girl, the energy and the moment. Some girls get scared when you try to caress lightly their hand during the date. Others will follow you to a toilet where will let you fuck them within 2 minutes of meeting them.

Thewelshpill · 2016-11-10T10:44:28+00:00

being aggressive isn't the right choice of word imo, but the trick is to set up the moment and lead her there. you can be as ~~agressive~~ confident as you like if shes already comfortable with the idea. build up to it and create the right moment for it

yummbeary · 2016-11-10T13:40:03+00:00

Being aggressive is good if it comes from a place of value, honesty and goodness. If you can give her that, be all the way aggressive. Stay respectful of course.

libertycomes · 2016-11-10T15:09:23+00:00

I struggle with this idea, too.

The idea sometimes reads like if you build up the kino and stuff, then it just 'happens', but in reality, it's rarely like that. Sometimes you're touching her and stuff, maybe struggling to move the conversation to something more sexual instead of talking about computers where it might feel weird to kiss her, almost waiting for a moment where she looks at you and you both kind of 'feel it' and it never happens. Sometimes you wonder whether you did something wrong or whether she was simply not into you, based on looks or whatever/

Although sometimes in hindsight, you think, ''damn it, maybe I should have just literally pulled her in, mid conversation and 'went for it'''!

It seems to work like that for some people.

I used to know a guy who seemed to break every 'rule' in the book, AND he was NOT physically good looking, but he was very very persistant and touchy and brave, and he'd just go for the makeout, and he ended up banging lots of girls WAY out of his league (in terms of looks). I don't know how he got away with it! It screamed 'needy' to me which I gather to be a huge turn off

dkasper6696 · 2016-11-10T18:16:14+00:00

Well my current SO told me she thought I was kind of a pussy the first time we met (we'd been exchanging texts for a couple months) because I wasnt really making any moves.

After a while we were watching netflix in my bed and after we got done with that, I started making out with her and then we had sex. She said it was really hot, and if I hadnt done that she said she probably wouldve stopped seeing me.

Title	How important is being aggressive, and how far can you go?
Author	Where_is_dutchland
Upvotes	7
Comments	9
Date	November 10, 2016 9:09 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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