Not being a "nice guy" doesn't mean you can't be nice.

MywtvrAccount · 2018-01-21T18:46:38+00:00

"Don't be a nice guy, be a good guy."

I always live by that. There's quite a difference between being nice and being good.

Maturion · 2018-01-21T14:45:36+00:00

The whole nice guy thing is ridiculous. No girl will reject you simply because you are nice.

Most "typical nice guys" simply fail to make a move at the right time and continue to be an asexual worshipper/friend of her. If ever, they make an inappropriate move at the wrong time, such as confessing their love after being an asexual friend for 6 months. Most of these guys aren't even particularly nice, they only interpret their asexual behavior as niceness.

sk07ch · 2018-01-21T20:03:59+00:00

Women like confidence. There is often a correlation between confidence and people that aren't nice.

But that doesn't mean that you can't be honestly nice and confident and attract women.

Murfdigidy · 2018-01-21T19:20:25+00:00

Here is in a nut shell...

Be a nice guy DON'T BE A PUSHOVER.

Some nice guys are fake, some are genuine, some girls test nice guys because they want to make sure you're not a wimp.

Be nice, be a gentleman but absolutely don't take shit from anyone including girls who want to shit test you.

Never waiver from being you and doing what you want to do all because you're trying to impress some girl. Girls find guys who do what they want when they want without reassurance from anyone... That's confidence that's sexy.

If people want the best example of a nice guy stud (albeit a fake example) think James Bond, he's a gentleman but he's also confident as fuck and don't take shit from anyone including women

drelics · 2018-01-21T21:44:05+00:00

You can be nice, so long as you're adventurous. The pitfall of the nice guy problem is the nice guy is boring. Avoid that and you're more or less good

circlhat · 2018-01-21T19:01:30+00:00

How many times have you heard, "That is the type of guy I will date when I'm 30", if nice guys are so bad, why do women want them when they are 30. Because they are really nice, loyal, and let you push them around. Women married nice guys all the time(To use)

Let's talk about what creates nice guys, and why they do it, you see when I was a kid I was told to respect women bodies and not do locker room talk. Ok that makes sense I said, I will be nice and kind to women, I won't talk about them in a sexual manner and fight my urges.

Then I see a guy walk up to a girl, and "say wow you got a nice ass , I want to dive in that", and the girl no only laughs but chooses him, so in my reality girls prefer assholes and bad guys.

Now the guy wasn't bad or a asshole, he was just being himself, I was lied to and given a false set of right and wrong.

It's high status/value when your aren't afraid to tell kind or nice things because you want to.

People misinterpret things, a guy who is relearning the rules will often err on the side of caution, you present a over simplified view, as most advice given to men are. It's like we must think one way about issues such as Nice guy.

aznology · 2018-01-21T20:31:47+00:00

There is a thing as being too nice. They appear mushy. Just be YOU.

Kay1000RR · 2018-01-21T18:32:20+00:00

Many women have told me it's not about being nice, but being a complete pushover with no opinion or courage to speak up for what you want.

abe-solotely-gnarly · 2018-01-21T21:39:36+00:00

"Nice guys" are essentially spineless. Just be a nice person with direction and purpose. The only people you should be bending over backwards for is your family, not some girl you want to hook up with or a friend who probably wouldn't do the same.

hunterpua · 2018-01-21T20:20:02+00:00

Its kinda like how Captain America behaves in the MCU.

Kurigohan-Kamehameha · 2018-01-21T22:12:05+00:00

"Always try to be nice, but never fail to be kind." -The Doctor

gman992 · 2018-01-21T19:49:27+00:00

When a woman sleeps with you, she subconsciously knows that she can get pregnant....hence the need to have sex or hookup with the dominant alpha male. Hence, when she is ready to settle down, she'll go for the nice guy.

hxtres · 2018-01-22T04:14:15+00:00

I definitely agree with your post. It's all about what your true intentions are, what you are trying to achieve. It's the difference between an actually nice, down to earth guy to a pussy.

The1neRedDevil · 2018-01-21T20:14:00+00:00

How is being “Nice” and not “The Nice Guy” working out for you? What is your “end-game”? LTR’s? Is this just “in-general”?

Title	Not being a "nice guy" doesn't mean you can't be nice.
Author	Where_is_dutchland
Upvotes	140
Comments	46
Date	January 21, 2018 1:33 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/7rxp0i/not_being_a_nice_guy_doesnt_mean_you_cant_be_nice/
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