How much touching is too much?

NickTDS · 2012-06-26T03:13:04+00:00

Depends on the girl. Depends on the situation.

Some girls will sleep with a guy in 5 minutes, but the vast majority won't. It sounds like she was drunk, at a party, and looking for someone to hook up with. He seems like he was in the right place, at the right time, and was the only one making moves.

thecajunone · 2012-06-26T03:26:32+00:00

Here friend, The Di Carlo Escalation Ladder. http://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/the-dicarlo-escalation-ladder-vt16552.html

puaCurveBall · 2012-06-26T15:41:45+00:00

It will take time to get calibrated, but rule of thumb is keep escalating until she stops you.

if she doesn't stop you, then pull her upstairs for head after 30 minutes ;)

budguy68 · 2012-06-26T14:50:16+00:00

2 steps forward, 1 step back.

kingcal · 2012-06-26T04:19:49+00:00

There is no too much until she gives you a firm no. And even then, treat it as a "not right now". Use your discretion. There's a large difference between LMR and an outright "no".

simplisticallysimple · 2012-06-26T09:08:50+00:00

Start touching (to screen). Keep escalating (to seal the deal). The biggest mistakes are usually 1) not even starting kino and 2) not consistently escalating once kino is started.

Sveske · 2012-06-26T15:54:05+00:00

Touching is how you know if the girl is into you. You test the waters and see. On the last date i was on, me and the girl went to her apartment after a bar. I literally said, "okay i'll start taking your clothes off now, if you don't like it you can just kick me out (i was late and all)". She didn't kick me out, so guess what i did?

2012-06-26T17:29:53+00:00

With experience, you can tell in the moment if a girl is receptive to something or not. Some situations, you can escalate hard and fast like in your story. Most other girls may not want to fuck you within the first 5 minutes. "Too much" is a case-by-case basis.

One girl I'm dating enjoys it when I pick her up, pull her around, push/guide her through a crowd, etc. Another girl will only feel comfortable holding my hand, which is perfectly fine. "Too much" is subjective. Learn to get a feel for what is right and what is wrong.

I don't believe in waiting for a "firm no" before I back off. A girl can communicate that she's uncomfortable even without a "firm no". It's not an excuse to NOT escalate, but it's also not an excuse to escalate further if it's unwanted. Guys will rant and rave, "WELL IF SHE DIDN'T WANT IT SHE COULD JUST SAY NO", but that's not how the world works. Many people won't assert themselves even if they're uncomfortable. Fuck that "firm no" bullshit. You can friggin' tell if a girl is uncomfortable or not.

itsmevichet · 2012-06-26T17:42:58+00:00

To answer your question, too much touching is when she dials 9-1-1. Just kidding. Seriously, though, you'll know it when it happens.

To address the point behind the point - you may have thought he was being loud and annoying.

But that chick's giny was tingling for sure.

Yeah. I like to strike a balance between "not being a douchebag" and being loud and obnoxious. I usually gravitate towards the loud and obnoxious end. So, I guess I'm a douchebag.

The good news is that all of my friends love me for it.

Anyways, be honest with yourself - do you wish that you had made his moves?

lilhurt38 · 2012-06-27T12:47:35+00:00

Don't be afraid to touch. Start small and build from there. You don't go straight from handshake (shouldn't ever handshake anyways, hugs are always better) to feeling her up. You build it up, the only thing that tells you to stop is her stopping you. If she stops you, you back off and don't touch her as much. Touch everyone (I know that sounds weird) even guys. I'm straight and I have no problem giving my guy friends hugs or something like that. I just don't touch them in sexual ways cause I'm not interested in them like that. You don't start off by touching girls in sexual ways either. You build up to it. Notice the guy tickled her. That's something friends could do, but it could also build sexual tension. Get comfortable with it cause you're not going to close unless you've escalated kino beforehand. A girl needs to get comfortable with you touching her before she'll let you anywhere near her vagina.

coyotelime · 2012-06-26T03:21:09+00:00

I would say start slow and if she's not rejecting it escalate.

x7j6 · 2012-06-26T04:23:42+00:00

If she doesn't call you for being weird in the first few minutes and either walks or away or gives you the face. Brush up against her arm. Move your hand to the arm, it's intimate without being too friendly.

Title	How much touching is too much?
Author	turkishdelight4
Upvotes	22
Comments	14
Date	June 26, 2012 3:09 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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