How often would you give somebody a chance?

Best-of-Texas · 2025-01-17T23:52:37+00:00

Wifey? Sounds like you are building her up to be someone she's not. Idk you can try to just be friends with her but this sounds like a huge waste of time

Dwerg1 · 2025-01-18T00:08:46+00:00

My wife was a virgin, never been with anyone and all that. The only thing I really had to be patient about was sex (a bit over a month for anyone wondering). She never made it hard for me to see her, saw each other 1-2 times a week at first and it was pretty much just about matching our schedules.

If I were you I'd back off a little bit and stop putting in the effort to ask her out. Sounds like you've done that plenty already. So either she puts in the effort because she doesn't want to fuck this up or she doesn't. You've done your part, give her the space to do hers (or not).

That seems to be the hardest part for most guys, just giving the damn space and taking the risk that she just doesn't make things happen, but it's absolutely necessary. Some guys are so afraid of losing their prospect that they're gonna lose their prospect anyways because they don't have to balls to take the risk of losing her due to inaction.

Might sound weird, I know, but it's a thing.

Onzalimey · 2025-01-18T01:04:49+00:00

She sounds very flakey. I would just put it on the back burner and move on if you haven’t already. If it happens to work out at some point great but don’t put much expectation on it. Virgin girls can also be really tricky especially if she’s getting a lot of attention. It’s actually quite a bit harder than normal

Informal_Sherbert251 · 2025-01-18T05:42:22+00:00

Define forgiveness and define how often you’d forgive yourself for the mistake someone else made. The more you’d allow yourself to be forgiven for that mistake, the more you should be willing to accept people for the flaws they have. Thus, tolerate them as you’d wanna be tolerated.

Interesting-Kiwi-874 · 2025-01-18T16:13:54+00:00

The problem we have as guys is that when we have a massive crush on a girl we will put up with huge amounts of disrespect.

I was in a similar position. A girl i liked would go on a few dates with me and then ghost me for a while and then return as if nothing happened.

Ever since then if a girl ghosts me for a couple of weeks with zero explanation I cut her out of my life.

My advice would be to keep dating other women, when you have multiple choices in girls you won't be so quick to put one on a pedestal.

tehjoch · 2025-01-17T23:57:40+00:00

what are wifey attributes? She seems flakey, for me that's anything but wife material

I'd personally would get more forward with my intentions and see how she responds. Obviously stop if she sais no, but continue when she's not stopping you

Other-Style1958 · 2025-01-18T00:06:54+00:00

So the way to work this is to stay consistent while emotionally detaching now from the end result

Reread your post. She drives to your place to talk, which is a good thing. Keep up the communication, asking her out less than you do, act disinterested and she comes back. This is someone you can't be direct with.

Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Talk to her and other people but stay consistent with what you are doing minus frustration because she has weird pacing

Title	How often would you give somebody a chance?
Author	FlieseTeppich
Upvotes	0
Comments	15
Date	January 17, 2025 11:49 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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