How should I start going out alone?

MeatyOakerGuy · 2019-10-20T03:09:06+00:00

A great line when you’re going out alone is “my friends ditched me”... talk to a girl, casually bring up that your friends ditched you but you wanted to stay out and have a good time. Other than that, the best way to make friends is to get active and atart going to events on campus. I waited way too long, but was able to assemble a solid friend group that I met through clubs/events/ groups. It can be brutal out there, stay safe friend

CLQUDLESS · 2019-10-20T03:25:35+00:00

It’s super hard, but try to talk to any girl you find mildly interesting. Whether it’s in class, at the store, at a musuem, when you’re buying chipotle whatever. For example if you’re waiting in line at the store, and you see a cute girl next to you say something simple as “I wonder what’s taking them so long” now this won’t get you laid or anything but it will make you more confident, and ready for when you meet the girl you’re really into.

scubasteve010 · 2019-10-20T02:22:16+00:00

A frat wouldn't make a difference unless you want to submit your personality to toxic social expectations. To be honest you won't ever find what you want at a bar. There isnt a time or place to find women you literally just take advantage of every presented oppertunity whether you're A1 or not. Sometimes a small conversation at HEB can get you more results than an expected hit on and $20 drink for some girl with 5 thirsty dudes hitting her up, 3 she's fucking, and you just gave her a drink prop to boost her ego/story

TheSatanicVegan · 2019-10-20T04:28:01+00:00

Just go out and do it.

I go to the bar by myself. I like to get drunk and dance. I find guys who know how to dance attractive. This past week I asked a guy's number after dancing with him on two different occasions. Do Karaoke, even if by yourself. If people know the song they are more than likely going to join you either on or off stage. People might even come up and talk to you afterwards. I go to the book store by myself. Take myself out to eat. I go to the gym. Get comfortable doing things by yourself, even the small things like taking yourself out for a meal. Apparently a lot of people have issues with that. Idgaf and find it very relaxing and peaceful.

At least for me, the less fucks I give the easier it is to talk to people or just do things period- and I'm a homebody. I'm really content just being home alone with just my cat and books. I was invited to the bar tonight but I skipped out because I don't feel like drinking. I had my fair share of that earlier this week.

Just be yourself, honest and open to try new things when you have the energy and don't beat yourself up if you do decide to lay low like I did tonight.

KikiDaCherry · 2019-10-20T08:54:59+00:00

be fearless

itzReborn · 2019-10-20T13:16:26+00:00

Literally in the same situation and it’s a weird feeling

GomboAndGimlee · 2019-10-20T03:53:37+00:00

I went out alone a lot. The way I see it is that if I stay in I have 0% chance. If I go out I have at least 1% chance.

My advice would be to go to events where people are looking to meet people. Stuff like Meetups, mixers, and dating events.

I didn't find the plain weekend night at the bar to be that effective. I met a couple girlfriends over the years that way but that's because it was the only way I tried to meet women. I figure I spent over 50 grand at bars over the last 15 years.

pleasetrydmt · 2019-10-20T09:33:33+00:00

Are you interested in a certain genre of music ? Look for places to party based on the music/ dj. you will find like minded people there and you will have a good time even if you do not talk to anyone and just dance. When you are having fun on your own, people (guys and girls) will want to approach you.

nmbrod · 2019-10-20T11:04:58+00:00

This won’t go down well but you have all sorts of barriers to hurdle when going out alone especially if it’s to meet women. I’m all for going out alone but you just can’t be thirsty when you do it - there is an air of confidence for a guy to go out alone. That’s the guy that doesn’t give a fuck and doesn’t chase women.

Elliquin · 2019-10-20T11:31:36+00:00

Join a club or society if you can. Drama works well for me. Maybe dancing

constxd · 2019-10-20T10:06:07+00:00

I feel like I'm in a good position to answer this because I was in the exact same boat until recently. I live in Canada where you can get in bars/clubs at 19 but I had literally never gone out until this year (I'm 22 now) but now I go out literally every single weekend, usually alone, and fucking LOVE it.

This might be slightly controversial but honestly the best advice I can give you is to get some phenibut. Find a dose that works for you (I typically go for 750mg-1.25g), have a few drinks (careful, they potentiate each other and it's super easy to black out), and just go to a club. Head to the dance floor and nobody can really even tell you're alone if it's busy enough. Just dance and have fun on your own, don't stress about hooking up with a girl on trying to talk to a bunch of them. Just have fun. Try to make eye contact with girls you think are attractive and smile at them, if it seems like they're into you then just make your way over to them and extend your hand to see if they're down to dance with you. Or if the right kind of song is on you can just try dancing behind a girl and make some slight contact, usually they'll turn around and if they think you're cute they'll start dancing on you, otherwise they'll move away or push you away, just be respectful about it and move on.

The phenibut + alcohol combo has you SUPER disinhibited and social and just in a good mood so you'll naturally feel like striking up conversations with people and if you frequent the same club for a while you'll get to know some other people who are there a lot and maybe make friends. Honestly I've had so much fucking fun and met so many people since I started going out, I can't believe I was so afraid for so long.

Just get out there and have fun! Nobody gives a fuck that you're alone as long as you're respectful and just look like you're having a good time. In fact in some ways it can be helpful because if you're just dancing alone rather than with a bunch of male friends, I find girls are sometimes less intimidated and are more likely to come over to you to dance.

Friedcreamdream · 2019-10-20T08:49:04+00:00

if you are 19 how would you possibly go to a bar? you’re underage....and most likely you will meet women who are older than you.

my suggestion is a club. school club. multiple school clubs. and also in terms of nightlife scene what about music shows? do you like dancing? or you can go to open mics in cafes or on campus

if i was you i would focus on the clubs where you think women would attend. maybe a skill you’ve always been curious about. like meditation, programming, dancing, animal behavior, these are just off the top of my head. but look into that. or take a 1 credit class in a cool subject and make a friend and ask them to go out with you - if it’s a guy you guys can go together if it’s a girl you can see where it goes. maybe even if you don’t like her like that, she has a friend who you would be eventually introduced to if you got closer with her. it’s difficult not gonna lie but try with something your interested in, or at least an event that has a focus. as a female i feel like bars are overall just boring there is no focus, just to drink.

guywhoisambitious · 2019-10-20T01:27:39+00:00

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Title	How should I start going out alone?
Author	guywhoisambitious
Upvotes	42
Comments	47
Date	October 20, 2019 12:55 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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