How to build confidence for wanting to start dating when you still live at home?

ChicoBrillo · 2026-02-01T19:15:29+00:00

No, don't wait. Put yourself out there.

Bettering your life should be your number one priority though, dating is tertiary.

Be frank about your situation, don't be ashamed.

It's only shameful if you're leaching and not even trying to better your situation.

Some women will care, others won't, I might even go as far as to say most won't.

CatInTheHatDog · 2026-02-01T20:40:43+00:00

Move out asap. Your confidence will skyrocket.

Available-Note-9652 · 2026-02-01T18:05:07+00:00

I’m not going to use any examples because you already know guys in your situation have success. Making more money will make it easier but it’s not the end all be all. If you are approaching women and doing the numbers game you will get women. All you have to do is just take the girl home and bring her to your room. It’s only embarrassing if you make it that way. If you truly don’t give a fuck about it then she won’t either. Do you really want to have success with women? Because it sounds like you’re waiting for a perfect situation that will never exist.

ThrowRA_fajsdklfas · 2026-02-01T19:10:13+00:00

As someone that used to be in that situation, you’re saving up for your own place. Say it with confidence. Pensiveness or hesitation will turn off any woman.

Some women will care, some will not.

If it gets serious enough, you can always go to her place. Never brought them back to my parent’s place. Had plenty of success with women, most understood, a lot more people live at home due to rising cost of living, nothing to be ashamed of if you’re trying to improve your life.

ygiftcard · 2026-02-02T00:50:52+00:00

pretend like you dont live at home... or act like you are living at home for a noble cause like taking care of your parents. it's not even a matter of whether you are a certain type or not. You don't even to build confidence if are able to pretend and simply act confident even if you aren't. It will be more effective if you try it out this way, pretend for a whole day that you are hot shit (unshakable confidence), do not break character. Gogo and come back to tell us the results.

Severe-Doughnut4065 · 2026-02-01T20:04:46+00:00

Go to her house

Disastrous_Affect742 · 2026-02-01T22:30:44+00:00

As soon as I moved out and got my own place my confidence and self respect multiplied ten fold. I would work on that first

Although when I didn't have my own place i still would get laid often either in my car or a hotel. So there's nothing stopping you from trying now.

Also strangely now that I have my own apartment, I don't pursue woman as much or invite them back to my place. I kind of like the peace and quiet around here. I got laid way more when dates ended in the back seat of my car lol

saryiahan · 2026-02-01T21:54:45+00:00

Stop living at home. You’re 30 bro. Time to start adulthood

poly_nerdy_panda · 2026-02-02T01:20:07+00:00

can't you move in with friends? honestly just join the navy you can join till your 35 save up money get your own place

AddLightness1 · 2026-02-02T04:37:00+00:00

The less you talk about yourself, the better (as in the status of your life). Just live in the moment, that's where it happens

MorningRain214 · 2026-02-02T20:14:29+00:00

You can pull girls while living with your parents, but you need to

Have a sixpack and muscles and 8% BF
Practice talking to women a lot and do 200 approaches

That's the only 2 things you need to do, but most men just don't do it because they are lazy fucks.

Icy-Childhood9761 · 2026-04-22T20:31:37+00:00

I would just wait till you have your own place. All the guys saying they get laid while living at home are either 19 or they are exaggerating greatly. At your age pretty much any women worth dating is going to be turned off immediately.

BaJe86 · 2026-02-03T09:09:55+00:00

Being your own man and living the life you want (not winning the lottery or some shit, but having your life together and making a good living) will do wonders for your confidence. Otherwise, fake it till you make it and try to pass it off as not a big deal.

Sea-Bee2222 · 2026-02-03T13:30:00+00:00

Honestly, you don’t need a mansion or a fat wallet to start dating confidence, humor, and being real go way further than money or your own place. Just put yourself out there, have fun, and let someone like you for you the rest will fall into place 😌

Title	How to build confidence for wanting to start dating when you still live at home?
Author	breaktheice7
Upvotes	15
Comments	17
Date	February 1, 2026 5:36 PM UTC (6 months ago)
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