How to do the very basics?

kazagistar · 2012-03-16T15:06:08+00:00

The world doesn't care about you, it cares about itself. No one is going to laugh at you or remember what you do, people are too self-absorbed.

Don't worry about it, just do.

puaCurveBall · 2012-03-16T15:48:33+00:00

Seduction is about learning to be yourself... you don't need to pretend anything.

Read the sidebar, practice some approaches, and learn about what does and doesn't work for yourself by trying it.

No one is going to remember you the next day and a lot of the girls you will probably never see again.

whodatmanoverdere · 2012-03-16T15:37:37+00:00

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Moonatx · 2012-03-16T21:51:47+00:00

Systematic desensitization. Step out of your comfort zone and the next time will be half as hard. You've made a huge step that puts you ahead of most people by admitting to yourself you want to improve this area of your life and are willing to seek the information to help you. Find what you love to do. Go to someplace that will have the women you want to meet. Also remember that confidence is knowledge.

rocmarciano · 2012-03-16T15:40:33+00:00

Socializing is like any other skill, you need experience and practice. If as of today you go out everyday and approach women, I guarantee you will see improvements in your life and you will get laid. Getting women is not as hard or challenging as it seems. It just takes practice and dedication like anything else in life

thecajunone · 2012-03-16T19:18:56+00:00

You have never done an approach? Well it sounds like you aren't ready anyways. First you need to flex your social skills. I would suggest doing a mall challenge or something similar. First you need to get comfortable just talking to people, having conversations, SMILING at people. I know it's hard bro, I just got out the depression thing myself (Still suffering though, it never really goes away) and I'm working on this a lot too. Remember your body language conveys what you are really feeling, hold your head up high, chest out, walk with purpose and confidence, smiling to show you are easily approachable, this more than anything will have women wanting to smile and talk back to you.

bfjerky · 2012-03-16T22:59:29+00:00

revealing that i want to be more than friends at some implicit level scares the crap out of me.

Totally get it. Been there. You need to KNOW that it is totally normal, healthy, manly, and expected that you should want to get laid. What isn't normal is pretending to be asexual and uninterested. KNOW IT. It's true.

Title	How to do the very basics?
Author	pubro13
Upvotes	14
Comments	34
Date	March 16, 2012 2:36 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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