How to escalate beyond being friendly?

revente · 2017-02-02T19:07:40+00:00

Just sneak a finger up her bumhole.

blueholeload · 2017-02-02T17:39:51+00:00

Thank you for asking this. I have the same problem but, I couldn't figure out the right words to ask it. Sorry for giving a notification of hope that it was answered

_TurnuptheSun_ · 2017-02-02T23:16:41+00:00

Okay so here's my lowdown on escalation. Other guys might have different approaches, but this works for me.

First, watch this video on showing sexual intent : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G-_oBZfdd8Q

That's an excellent overview to what good escalation is.

Now, here's a basic run through on physical escalation and how it works for me.

Escalation happens in lots of little steps that build up to sex. You sound like a beginner, so let's just focus on getting to a kiss for now.

Stage I: So if you're enjoying a conversation with a girl and you want to start escalating physically you might say 'I love you_____, let's get married." and then hug her. If she's responds positively by laughing or whatever, that means you can step it up a little bit.

Stage II: While you're talking, put your hands on her hips, and move in a little closer, keeping eye contact. If her body-language is positive (e.g, she wraps her arms on your neck, she locks eye contact with you, she smiles and flicks her hair etc.) then you're probably good to go for the kiss.

Stage III: A good final test is to gently place your palm on her cheek, if she doesn't pull away or give you other negative signals, you're almost certainly good to go for the kiss.

Other points to consider: Never ask a girl if it is "okay" to kiss her or do any of the thing listed above -- it's a serious turn-off. Read the girl's body language to find out if she's interested. Is she moving closer or further away? Making eye-contact or avoiding eye contact? Remember that male and female sexuality are different: Guys are ready for sex pretty much at the drop of a hat, whereas women get turned on much more slowly, so the key is to be patient; you might have to go back and forth through these stages a few times in any interaction before the girl is comfortable enough to kiss you.

One important caveat: Remember that no two interactions are the same, and every girl is a little different. It's impossible to have one model for every situation, but here's a basic example of how it might go.

Millkovic · 2017-02-02T18:31:51+00:00

It's called Kino.

HiImALocalThrowaway · 2017-02-02T19:09:18+00:00

Kino, so much kino. And don't only touch girls you talk with also touch guys and touch everyone. Touch them on the shoulder, arms and hold their hands while talking. Start practicing this by touching people's arms on the side and get used to touching even more areas of the body. Learn yourself which touches give you the most positive feedback.

aminimalisticwitch · 2017-02-02T23:12:23+00:00

"can we have sex or is this strictly platonic?"

Also acceptable: "can I touch your butt" "you make my heart do funny things" "can I do you" and my personal favorite, "can you put your thingy in my thingy"

Works every time. Embrace the awkwardness. Its cute.

MindsEvolve · 2017-02-02T23:17:31+00:00

Some of the problems that guys have is that they think they're starting off on the right foot by being friendly and gentle, and then they can later turn it into something sexual afterwards. I'm just sensing that based on the way the question is being asked. Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong.

You have to go IN with intent. I approach women with direct eye contact and a smirk. So they know it's on from the beginning. I'd rather have them reject me straight up than try and go in with a gentle "I'm harmless" approach just to stay in a non-existent game for longer.

Anyone can PM me if they need more help with this!

Kitt_55 · 2017-02-03T06:04:34+00:00

There is a difference between making someone like you and generating attraction. The majority of men focus more on ensuring that a woman approves of them, rather than risking becoming vulnerable by honestly expressing themselves. Unapologetic honest expression of one’s true self is at the core of what generates attraction. Thus by playing not to lose and to protect your ego, you are inevitably destined to lose. You need to be unapologetic about who you are as a person. It is OK and normal that not everyone will like you. When first approaching a woman, your intentions should be clear from the start. These intentions should simply be: “I want to get to know you.”

Many men are ashamed and apologetic about the natural and normal attraction they have for women, and thus are not secure with their masculinity. Being sheepish or apologetic about your actions communicates to a woman that you feel that you are not good enough for her and that you are seeking her approval. However, being apologetic should not be confused with being empathetic. You should always be aware of other people’s emotions and how you are making them feel. By being unapologetic, I mean that you should have personal integrity, be self-secure and not afraid of upsetting someone as a result of being honest about your beliefs and desires. This does not mean that you should lack empathy and be oblivious and callous to how others feel. Nor does it mean that you should not apologize upon making an honest mistake.

-Fundamentals of Female Dynamics (book) by Michael Knight

Title	How to escalate beyond being friendly?
Author	ZachP48
Upvotes	10
Comments	13
Date	February 2, 2017 5:33 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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