I've been reading seddit for a while now, and you guys are a real asset. I've been trying to use the tips you guys have, and it works to some extent with online game. I hate online dating though and really want to get into the real-life game. After about a year of trying as hard as I can and having no real success, I realized what I'm missing out on....I'm freaking boring when I talk. I can only talk confidently about really boring topics, those even I don't want to discuss on a Saturday night. I never even get the opportunity to escalate, because when I go up to a girl/group of girls I have no idea what to say and what I do say either falls flat immediately or within a few minutes. In a year of trying I may have hooked twice.

One of my friends and I went to an event this weekend, and he was able to kill it. Able to approach, start a conversation, and get at least some interest. I wasn't even able to keep up and he did most of the talking. Even when I tried to chime in no one was really interested in what I was saying. This made it really obvious and I then realized this was my problem.

I'm sure others have had this problem, and I have no idea what to do to fix this. It feels isolating. I'm know - frequently the answer is do more interesting things, just hang out, and such, but I already do, in my opinion. I can't turn a discussion into a recent kayaking trip or a trip out of the country into anything that even sounds interesting. Even things I did with friends where we were having a great time and laughing non stop doesn't translate into stories. I'd be happy to get some advice or suggestions at what to look at.