In this post I will reveal 3 bulletproof principles that you will want to use if you want to turn a girl on and to be able to take things from a bar to bedroom.

Also at the end of the post I will give you my secret move that 99 out of 100 women absolutely love.

Principle 1 - Take her mind of things

On my dates I would often meet girls right after their work day or class at university, so they would be in a logical work mode. Sometimes they had a really tough day, so they would be in a state of stress or still thinking about work.

When a girl is in work mode or state of anxiety, she cannot be turned on. You first need to allow her to drop these things in her mind and help her get present.

However, most men do the opposite and spend too much time talking about day to day stuff like work or studies for too long.

Not only this is boring, but it drives the girl even more into the logical mode and resurfaces day to day issues to her mind.

So what do you do then?

First, you need to get present yourself. If you show up in work mode or distracted, you will never be able to help her get present.

So do what you got to do - go to the gym or for a run, do a 20 min meditation or play with your dog. Whatever works, but you need to show up to the date present. For you to help the girl get present, you need your state of presence be stronger than her state of distractedness.

Second, inject humour.

One time a girl came to the date fuming at her boss and upset over a work call.

What you don’t want to do is start saying - “Yeah, I hate my boss too, my job sucks etc.” If you let the conversation take a negative turn, then it’s just both of you complaining about your day to day lives, and you’re just going the opposite way.

Leave your negative, self defeatist attitude at home.

So what I did is I let her vent a little bit and then said - look, would you like to kill your boss? If you want, after this we can go visit some shops, buy some ammo and then let’s go to his house

Humour is great for two reasons.

1 - it helps you achieve the purpose of helping her take mind off things and

2 - it makes the conversation more emotional and less logical which will come in handy down the line.

Principle 2 - Become great at flirting

Let’s say you’re a foreigner trying to learn English language. And at this point all you can say are things like

My name is Gus

I like to go to the gym

I make a Reddit post

What would be my level of knowledge of English language? We can both agree that it’s the most basic - a novice, a beginner, a noob.

Now flirting is also a language - it’s a language of romance.

And if you ask most men to flirt - all they can say is - You are very beautiful. I like your dress. Can I have your number?

So you can say the most basic phrases but not much else. And if that’s the case, you will always struggle on your dates if your level of flirting is not at least at an intermediate level.

Most men complain that their dates lack “man to woman” energy and yet they have never bothered to improve their flirting abilities. You would never go to a business meeting in English having an A1 level English, so why do you expect a different outcome on your dates?

So drop your ego, be honest about your current flirting abilities and take the time to properly learn and practise the language of romance.

Hopefully I have made a strong argument that you should learn this, now - how do you learn this?

You can check out my Reddit profile where I have a bunch of solid resources that will teach you the art and craft of flirting including the Logical Man's Guide To Flirting (completely free)

Principle 3 - Repeated Physical Contact

Humans are biologically and psychologically wired to crave and enjoy physical contact. A simple physical touch releases oxytocin, often referred to as the "love hormone" or "cuddle hormone." And when you touch a girl in the right areas, at the right times repeatedly, she is going to be turned on.

However, there are some mistakes you can make here that you should avoid.

First of all, don’t rush. There is a reason I included this as Principle 3, so make sure you have followed Principles 1 and 2 before you go in hard physical escalation.

At the same time, don’t wait too long. Classic mistake is a guy who spends a few hours with a girl without touching her once and then at the end of the date when it’s time to say goodbye, swings for the fences and goes for the make out or just tries to invite her to his place. No bueno.

Instead, build up gradually.

When you meet her, give her a hug.

At the venue, take her hand and check out her rings.

Do these kinds of innocuous touches and then slowly move to more proactive, bolder moves.

Play with her hair.

Talk slowly in her ear.

These are basics, and still they are really effective if done right. 

Now let me tell you my secret move that I almost always do before kissing a girl. Which is kissing them on the neck beforehand.

I do this for two reasons.

#1 - it turns the women a lot. The neck is an area with many sensitive nerve endings, making it particularly responsive to touch. Gentle kisses on the neck can stimulate these nerve endings, sending pleasurable signals to the brain. And it can turn the woman on much more than the actual kiss on the lips

#2 - it is very smooth. Usually in society kissing on the lips is this one big moment and often times it carries a lot of negative pressure. Also the area of lips is not big, so you have to be very targeted when you go for it. While with neck - it’s not seen as that big of a deal, and girls are usually much more receptive to neck kissing earlier on. Also the neck area is much bigger, so you don’t have to be perfect at timing it either. 

And after you have kissed the girl on the neck, and she liked it, it’s super easy to kiss her on lips.

Using basketball analogy, it’s like doing a throw vs a layup - a layup has much higher chances of succeeding.

So in this video we took a look at 3 principles to turning a girl on

1 - making sure she is present and not her in mind but her body

2 - speaking the language of romance aka flirting

3 - consistent physical touch that builds over time

If you can master these essential principles, I guarantee you will start seeing women respond much differently to you on dates and you will be turning them on a lot more.

Any questions or want more help? Feel free to reach out.