I am a low-value man. How do I transform into a better one?

Particular_Visual531 · 2022-03-03T02:57:51+00:00

It starts today. There are four pillars. 1) workout everyday at the same time, lift heavy weights first, cardio is good as you have time, but heavy weights is what transforms a man's body and increases his self confidence as well as his perceived social status with others of both sexes. 2) Spend 15 mins a day trying to find your calling (what you are passionate about). Same as weight lifting try to do it at the same time of day (early morning, or as you prepare to sleep is usually best). Start with brainstorming what you are passionate about and read books and articles about finding your passion or calling in life. Then use the 15 mins a day to plan goals and achieve them everyday that lead to your life's calling. 3) Read about influencing others and practice everyday to learn to be more social. Besides reading do a minimum of 5 engagements with people a day. learn to read people, learn to listen actively and understand what they want, learn to be positive and influence people to be positive, learn to help people, especially those that you have nothing to gain (helping an elderly woman cross the street, etc). Expand your friends by helping people and inviting people to do things weekly. Host get togethers and host going out events, people will enjoy being around you and you can try new things with friends, this will build your social status and confidence. Finally, the 4th thing is read about attraction and dating. Learn how to groom, learn how to approach, learn how to flirt, and practice it all the time. Ask women out everywhere and anywhere. Learn to be comfortable around women. Ask out women that you are not heavily attracted to so you can practice attraction skills. Practice, practice, practice.

As a corollary to these things, read about cognitive behavioral therapy and practice it, it will stop you form saying things like "I'm a low value man", also contact me so I can explain the science behind how your brain works and why its important to understand the psychology if you want to be successful in life.

2022-03-02T23:56:44+00:00

Those are excellent steps, just make sure you do them

samiam12555 · 2022-03-03T02:14:38+00:00

Start small, but make each of these things a habit. Don't overdue it at first. For example.. when I started working out I started with a 10 minute workout every other day. I stayed consistent with that and that 10 minute every other day workout has evolved into an every day 30 minute workout routine that is now a habit in my mind.

In my head I dont set hard goals or timelines.. instead I set habits and systems into my life that I will consistantly do on a daily basis. Reaching the goals and deadlines are a byproduct of staying consistent. Meaning.. Don't say to yourself "I want to have a killer body in 6 months" Instead say "I'm going to excercise every day no matter what, and having a killer body will be the byproduct of that, not the goal. The goal is to stay disciplined and do the workout every day.

Same goes for career, I am currently making the transition into the IT field. I have been studying every day since october. I made it a habit, now I cant go a day without putting in my hour of studying. I dont care how long it takes in the long run as long as I have built these habits into place I will get there. For example I am hoping to start working In IT in June. I can stress about the "june" deadline OR I can enjoy myself and study every day for an hour and If I get there in July so be it.

My point is the systems I am building are going to carry me further then setting quick temporary goals. This has helped me so much. I am in no way telling anyone not to get there butt in the fire and push through the pain and reach a deadline, I am just saying FOR ME, not worrying about the deadline and instead focus on building the habit has gotten me further then I ever would have otherwise.

TLDR: Build a habit/system that you follow every day no matter what. Everything will fall into place. Become a healthy habit machine. Get it done.

FadingSignal0 · 2022-03-03T00:44:08+00:00

Adonisssssss

a fellow hamza viewer I see

MegaManXanax · 2022-03-03T04:06:05+00:00

Start telling yourself your high value. Tons of women date “low value men” you just have to be assertive but not needy.

fourwindsgold · 2022-03-03T01:12:23+00:00

You already know what you have to do. Its hard though, thats why its valuable. You can 100% do it just don’t give up or get lazy.

SYNDIFATE · 2022-03-03T11:32:43+00:00

Learn the following skills: 1. A skill that earns you money 2. A skill that controls your mind 3. A skill that improves your body 4. A skill that you use for socializing

Silver-Variation8903 · 2022-03-03T02:30:44+00:00

Make sure you get a male therapist.

2022-03-03T05:42:48+00:00

You will transform into a man of value once you do those things you have on your list, you will gain a better relationship with yourself resulting in higher confidence.

DO THE THINGS YOU SAY YOURE GOING TO DO. START YOUR JOURNEY NOW OR REGRET IT IN THE FUTURE.

TrendyLepomis · 2022-03-03T14:09:43+00:00

tldr;

start producing, less consuming.

start hobbies to develop practical skills, writing, have an artistic outlet (this coming from an engineer), build.

stop consuming porn, media. Cook your food, dont order out. stop watching fitness motivation and literally go outside.

wayoflifeforme · 2022-03-03T17:14:33+00:00

Gym/uni/work: ALWAYS be improving on at least 2.

Socialisation: you should always be working on this even it’s small things a day like smiling at 3 strangers tomorrow, then building up to introducing yourself to people at the office you don’t ever talk to. Or starting up idle small talk with strangers.

Other things that are important but of secondary importance to what I’ve mentioned: clothes this is completely individualistic rule of thumb just dress like other trendy guys your age until you get the hang of it and an start incorporating your own personality into it.

Therapy, obviously this is very important too. Make sure you go there to actually want to work on yourself.

Sports are an awesome way to meet people and stay fit. That’s a bonus tip from me.

Legal_Development · 2022-03-03T01:53:14+00:00

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Mechanik_J · 2022-03-03T04:29:33+00:00

Like Kevin Samuel says, you're in the esquire phase. Learn as much as you can in your 20's, try new things, learn languages, try and fail in business and school (even though it's probably too expensive to fail in school. I think he means try to study new subjects, and if works out cool. If not then you learned you're not good at that, or to be good at that subject you would have to invest time).

You don't start reaching your potential til your 30's so you got time.

darkdaemon000 · 2022-03-03T09:08:01+00:00

Fake it till you make it.

Transportation-Jumpy · 2022-03-03T09:58:11+00:00

You took the first step already, you wanna change.

A lot of people don't have the ability to self reflect or it's too hard to change so they stay in their comfort zone.

Good luck bruh

Sufficient_Purpose_7 · 2022-03-03T10:15:39+00:00

1) consider adopting an antifragile ego where instead of basing your worth on how good you are at socialising base it on whether you went up to that social group and tried your best. conditional self esteem isn't confidence.

2) read power cues - tells you how to read and control body language unconciously (without a long list of gestures for you to remember)

3)read the social skills guidebook - practical steps to finding friends and form deep connections

4)always be thinking how does this affect the power dynamics of the relationship and how can I make this a win win relationship.

MrColfax · 2022-03-03T10:43:24+00:00

Work out and achieve an "Adonis" aesthetic

This is a good goal to shoot for, but just start with small steps and appreciating that your body can look quite good after a year or two of consistent lifting. Then you can focus on the "Adonis" stage.

cufyjays · 2022-03-03T14:57:42+00:00

Ask me

damiancontrol · 2022-03-03T15:03:32+00:00

Does going to therapy for our insecurities actually work?

No-Department6252 · 2022-03-03T15:07:08+00:00

Your value to women is heavily predicated on how physically attractive you are to her. I know this is so obvious it almost sounds like I'm trolling but you'd be surprised how many guys neglect this. also before all the guys come in and say thats only for short terms, think again.

RedEyeBlackEye1 · 2022-03-03T15:32:22+00:00

ALSO, looksmaxing your haircut and facial hair makes A HUGE DIFFERENCE AND WILL GET YOU MORE RECEPTION...AND MORE LEEWAY TO FUCKUP.

Rule of thumb, try to save 20-30% of every paycheck. It may not seem like much, but adds up at the end of the month.

Good luck on your journey, OP.

Chicagoj1563 · 2022-03-03T15:46:41+00:00

Focus on one thing first, and don't get caught up too much in a blueprint or master plan. They almost never work for most people. It's ok to have goals, but its the small daily habits that should be your focus.

Try starting with fitness and nutrition. Its one of the things that is all within your control. Make that your starting point and focus on that for the next 2 months. It's most likely going to be a challenge as it is for most people.

After a while, try to see what is the next item. But, I'd approach this in a more flexible agile way. Things will change as you take action and your goals may change. Don't be too rigid in everything. Start with one thing, get into the rhythm of being consistent, then step up to the next thing.

2022-03-03T15:47:17+00:00

I wish people could change low level man to low level person

Opportunity_Fuzzy · 2022-03-03T17:51:37+00:00

find a job either full time or part time and if part time find two ( you need money to advance and get a better wardrobe).
find 30 mins to an hour a day to work out. it doesnt mean it has to be lifting weights it could be jogging, bike-riding, anything that gets you active. look at websites to see what type of body you want and how to get it but to be healthy and fit is to just be active.
do the therapy thing but make sure the therapist is right for you and doesnt coddle you but tests you to face those insecurities head on. the point of therapy is to eventually no longer need therapy.
figure what style you like and look at people that are about you size and see how they dress but also be ok to express yourself. it's your clothes you should like how you look.
to command respect you must first be compotent . help people out take up some hobbies that on a leading role at your job be involved in your community be social and be active in the community that you want to be in.

there is more but this should get you started

eddiecash303 · 2022-03-03T18:18:16+00:00

Start traveling & post on social media 😎😎

Title	I am a low-value man. How do I transform into a better one?
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Date	March 2, 2022 11:36 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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