I am currently working on getting my self-confidence up, but more specifically; how can I stop being so self-conscious about how I look?

bzkneez · 2015-08-17T17:35:25+00:00

This may sound odd, but hyping yourself up, speaking positive things out loud to yourself, in front of a mirror or randomly like a football player does before a game or a boxer does before a fight and repeatedly doing this over and over again throughout the day; it actually tricks your mind and reprograms it to believe what you're saying. It's speaking things into existence.

DaygameCoach · 2015-08-17T18:54:45+00:00

The height is a extreme advantage, no joke. Combine that with confidence and assertiveness and you are golden. Be social/friendly too, especially because of the height.

Learn how to read body language MUCH better. Get physical copies of these books:

Superflirt (OOP but available on amazon used, not avail on pdf) Superdate (OOP but available on amazon used, not avail on pdf)

Also, get Unmasking the Face. I don't always recommend it but you you need all 3 of the books I listed here.

Please don't respond with excuses of self limiting beliefs (if you think being black or tall is a problem, for you it is).

Cuisine, daygamer.net

Alpha-Turtle · 2015-08-17T17:24:45+00:00

I don't always think I'm ugly, butt I hate my smile, and when I smile in front of a mirror I feel like shit, and I'm still working on it.
You have to realise that there are even uglier guys who get 10s with no problem, and then accept that looks don't matter that much. Of course they matter at first, but if you know how to play your cards you're good :D

I hope this helped!

Grolmeister · 2015-08-17T17:30:40+00:00

Im pretty tal aswell and we tall guys tend to sludge so our posture isnt correct so work on your posture and body language, second is Nofap, for me nofap made me really less self-consciousness try it

DariusSSfJ · 2015-08-17T18:11:02+00:00

There ya go: http://www.girlschase.com/content/how-deal-your-physical-insecurities

There are also some good books on the topic, i.e. "The Body Image Workbook" by Thomas F Cash

citystars · 2015-08-17T18:15:36+00:00

start working out. not only will you look better, you'll feel better as well. feeling good will then also make you think you look good. you gotta play the cards you're dealt. just work with it and embrace it man its all you can do.

philosarapter · 2015-08-17T19:37:31+00:00

In situations like this, you just need to NOT be your own enemy. Everyone has some hangups on how they appear, but you gotta train your mind to forget all that stuff when you are out in the field. By second guessing yourself or introducing doubt, you're going to throw your game off, regardless of whether your fears are true or not.

Those things are to be critiqued when you are home alone or in the gym.

But when you go out put those fears aside. If a woman takes a liking to you, good, if not, no big deal move on to the next. Just fight any urge to criticize yourself while you are trying to talk to girls.

Instead ground your awareness in your present moment, focus your attention instead on slowing your breath and moving calmly with purpose.

Remember that everyone has a different idea of what 'attractive' means to them. Just because you may not find yourself particularly appealing does not mean that nobody will. If you exude confidence and are a friendly/fun person, you will appear as your most attractive self and there WILL be girls that find your unique look attractive, you just have yet to meet them.

MizTaKes · 2015-08-17T21:08:13+00:00

Force yourself to go out looking like shit. Honestly though, you need to look deeper and become more confident in yourself.

Professor_Red · 2015-08-17T22:14:38+00:00

Try this. Make a list of all your perceived flaws. Under the list make a T chart with issues that are under you control on the left(weight, muscle mass,skincare,haircut,glasses/contacts,ect), and issues that aren't under your control on the right(facial structure, height, ect).

Make a plan to fix the issues on the left( workout, diet, ect). Don't worry about the issues on the right because there is nothing you can do about them.

Title	I am currently working on getting my self-confidence up, but more specifically; how can I stop being so self-conscious about how I look?
Author	ComradeZac
Upvotes	2
Comments	19
Date	August 17, 2015 5:07 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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