I am CURSED

ResentCourtship2099 · 2026-05-13T22:10:19+00:00

You say you have girls approach you 99% of guys that does not happen to

EvadingTaxes · 2026-05-13T22:48:43+00:00

Go watch Playing with fire on YouTube. Also look up the physical escalation ladder and read the game

FeistyRip9623 · 2026-05-14T00:41:23+00:00

act in the way that is the most fun for you & say the things you really want to say instead of what you think is the “best” thing to say or what they want to hear. that’s how you develop your own voice with others bc you already have you own voice in your head & around people you’re close to

Relevant_Occasion_33 · 2026-05-13T22:23:11+00:00

Try talking to less pretty girls and work your way up to girls you find attractive.

AlvaroUrdaneta · 2026-05-13T23:30:45+00:00

This is not a curse. It is a skill gap.

You are getting the hard part for free: women are already showing interest and creating openings. Your problem is that when the moment arrives, your brain overloads and you freeze instead of responding.

That usually happens when a man thinks he needs to suddenly become smooth, witty, or perfectly flirty on demand. Then every second feels high stakes, and he says nothing.

But when a girl is hovering, staying close, looking for eye contact, smiling, or creating chances to interact, you do not need a perfect line. You just need to acknowledge the opening and start simple.

The goal is not to impress her in the first sentence.
The goal is to enter the interaction.

Something basic, said with a relaxed smile, is enough.

From there, the conversation can become normal. The mistake is treating her interest like a performance test instead of an invitation.

Also, being autistic or coming from a different culture may make these indirect signals harder to read. That does not mean you are doomed. It means you will probably do better with a clearer mental rule: when a woman repeatedly places herself near you, holds eye contact, or gives an obvious opening, respond instead of waiting for total certainty.

You do not need to become a different person. You need a few simple default responses so your mind has something to grab onto when you freeze.

Feel free to message me if you have questions, dms open

ExcellentPlace4608 · 2026-05-13T23:39:21+00:00

Following because I can be in the same boat sometimes. I don’t know if I’m mildly autistic (seems like everything thinks they are these days) but I am an engineer so my brain works a certain way.

From my experience, I don’t really worry about saying a whole lot but I do make sure I don’t let the conversation go into logic territory. I think it’s better to say nothing at all than be overly logical. Sure, get some of the logical questions out of the way like “where are you from?” but keep the rest of the conversation topics focused on things that stir her emotion, funny things you notice in the environment around you, how you feel about things, etc. Otherwise it’s like you’re conducting a job interview and job interviews aren't very fun.

MaxBrujo · 2026-05-14T18:33:19+00:00

if you're autistic then you're probably good at noticing details and girls loves a guy who notices details about them. just bring them up casually and show genuine interest in knowing things about her beyond her looks and you'll stand out from the average guy. just be train on being assertive with little talking if you're shy and let them do the talking.

MineDesperate2920 · 2026-05-14T00:44:06+00:00

Vibe matters the most and your vibe is way off

CibrecaNA · 2026-05-14T11:07:23+00:00

Damn that's a good curse to have. Whatcha need help with exactly?

clitz-n-glamour · 2026-05-14T16:44:52+00:00

It doesn’t matter how many obstacles you’re impeded by, tackle one problem at a time. Also, start small. The poster who said to talk to less attractive girls for starters, was giving solid advice. Here’s more:

Your subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between a vividly-imagined event and one that was real. Run endless simulations in your head, where you respond to various women’s advances with solid eye contact and a calm, casual demeanor.

Do this until it feels natural in your imagination, and then these will be the sort of interactions you’ll begin to draw into your experiences. If you can’t see yourself doing it mentally, you won’t accomplish it in reality.

Background_Reward733 · 2026-05-14T17:06:55+00:00

relatable, i get dozens of compliments a day but am not fully calibrated enough to follow it up

Title	I am CURSED
Author	Don_7even7even
Upvotes	4
Comments	40
Date	May 13, 2026 9:43 PM UTC (2 months ago)
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