I am extremely sensitive to being ignored and I fucking hate it

Bland-Username · 2017-09-30T22:10:54+00:00

Why so selfish?

And I'm not saying that as a personal jab to you, I'm saying it because of the way you're describing your "problem" - you're making it sound like these girls should, at the drop of the hat, get back to you ASAP as if they don't have a life of their own.

Take a moment and put yourself in the girl's shoes. She's likely getting texts from 5-6 different people at a time (half of which are likely guys), while at the same time living her life in the real world. My girlfriend frequently gets these waves of texts at times, and I can visibly notice how pent up with anxt she gets when looking through her notifications. She has to mentally categorize the importance of each text, and figure out which ones are worth responding to, and which are not.

boil to the point where I have sometimes exploded and acted completely bipolary or some shit asking why girls play games and why she's ignoring me.

Don't you think it's a little unfair to accuse her of "playing games" or purposely ignoring you to get under your skin? Again, put yourself in her shoes. Think for a moment about how self-centered these thoughts are. They are self-sabotaging, and are not a healthy way to live life. Putting yourself in a state of constant anxiety and panic are detrimental to your mental and physical health over time.

How the fuck do I fix this?

For one, quit being self-centered and outcome-dependant. The good news lies in the title of your post; you seem to be self-aware to the extent that you realize it's a problem which is half the battle.

Your next step is to keep yourself occupied with other shit. Go read a book. Go learn something new. Go challenge yourself in interesting ways. Go meet new people. Meditate for 15 minutes. Go eat some tasty-ass food. You need to get out of your headspace and distract your thinking-brain. There's so much shit you could be doing right now other than being caught up in this petty nonsense.

One thing i've found in personal experience is girls will text you back when you least expect them to (i.e., when you're in the middle of a mentally stimulating activity of any kind). Having this happen is bounds-healthier than sitting at your desk waiting - where minutes feel like hours, and hours feel like days.

Ask yourself: "Is she worth sitting and stewing over?"

"An idle mind is the devil's workshop" is a phrase that comes to my mind when I read through your post. Repeat this mantra in your head until it sticks.

Side note: Sure, meditation could also be considered having "an idle mind", but I highly recommend any sort of meditation practices to clear your headspace and focus on what's important... it's the only time where the former phrase doesn't really apply.

macaroon18 · 2017-10-01T23:43:38+00:00

You think you have it bad? I sent 42 texts to this spanish chick who still hasn't replied 😂

MisterBurgerFace · 2017-10-01T02:07:42+00:00

You're needy, clingy, and desperate for attention.

Change that, or I promise you will end up on /r/incels

NunoHimself · 2017-09-30T22:25:08+00:00

So you're basically needy. You want it to work so bad, because you have lack of options. If it doesn't work out with her, you have no one else. How to stop being needy? Talk to more girls, get more options.

RojAr82 · 2017-10-01T13:33:43+00:00

You need to develop your equanimity. It is the way. The only way.

ThePUA_Baddie · 2017-10-01T18:11:53+00:00

it's because you're a chode in scarcity. if you were really fucking girls, you wouldn't care if you were being ignored through text by these girls. if you were really a guy of value and had shit going on in his life, you won't spend time wondering about these girls. the way you fix this is by obtaining more options. stop being a chode and throwing yourself 100% on every single girl that gives you attention

-AsadBajwa94 · 2017-10-01T18:51:05+00:00

Stop this clingy attitude, women are human beings with their own feelings and thoughts. If she ignores you, on to the next.

brianbria · 2017-09-30T23:39:42+00:00

You have a dependency pattern.

If you have the Dependent Pattern, you feel an intense need for love (or attention, sex, affection, validation, or caring) from your partner. It feels like you can't get enough. When you don't get what you need from your partner, how do you react? If you get very upset, sad, or depressed, this may indicate that you have a Dependent Pattern. However, if you simply feel some disappointment, then you may not have it.

What you need to develop is self-support.

Self-Support involves being able to take care of yourself and feel secure and good about yourself. It includes the ability to take care of yourself emotionally, whether you are in a love relationship or on your own. It means you are grounded and centered. You feel whole in and of yourself, without having to rely on another person to make you feel good about yourself.

If you want to actually change from dependent to self-supportive at a deep level, pay for this course (it's only $14.50 usd) :

https://selftherapyjourney.com/Pattern/Dependent/Dependent_Pattern.aspx

Other guys just say "approach more, date more, have more options" .... this will only mask the problem.

Title	I am extremely sensitive to being ignored and I fucking hate it
Author	BrickTop94
Upvotes	28
Comments	29
Date	September 30, 2017 9:44 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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