I don't fucking get it.

monopolytroll · 2017-04-15T06:27:08+00:00

Possible Problems:

You aren't being physical enough (depending on the setting)

You aren't giving off the vibe that you are attracted to the people you talk to

You text too much

You worry too much about the results and it shows

Orobek · 2017-04-15T04:57:25+00:00

I can definitely sympathize. But I'm curious, how is it going so wrong? Can you give an example?

BaldiDog · 2017-04-15T05:46:37+00:00

I'm studying the law of average in dating. 30 of every 50 will be open to speak with you, 20 will actually start a conversation, 10 will give you her phone number, 5 will answer and 3 will keep texting you and 1 will go out with you. It's a numbers game. I'm writing about my theory, is more complicated but you get the point.

NTSpike · 2017-04-15T15:20:08+00:00

You need to provide a lot more detail. This could be a number of things, from looking like absolute dogshit, having ridiculous nervous ticks that you aren't even aware of, boring conversation, not picking up that girls are actually interested, not knowing how to text to actually secure the date, etc. What do you look like? How do conversations actually go? What is your gameplan? How are you feeling in set? How are the girls feeling? Are you feeling connections with any of these girls?

abstractpickupartist · 2017-04-15T08:24:43+00:00

I know I'm being way too vague

Yep. Do a field report.

Or get a wing, and get some feedback. If you have female friends (And you should!) get feedback from one you aren't currently chasing. (don't ask what to do, they won't know. Ask if you are doing something wrong).

Seriously, I hate the idea that some people spread that cold pickup in clubs is the way to start. It's a shitty place to start for a newbie. Clubs are hard. Build a social circle, and find connections. Build a life, so you have something to talk about.

secretstoner88 · 2017-04-15T18:14:25+00:00

You're probably just coming across desperate as fuck. Girls can tell when a guy is thirsty. Even if you say all the right things and play by all the right rules it won't help it'll just make you seem creepy. Getting # means nothing, its like getting someones name. Next time you go out just have fun. Fun should be priority 1. If your honestly just trying to have a good time (meet, talk, swap ideas and jokes) you won't come across as a pervert.

_TurnuptheSun_ · 2017-04-15T14:55:11+00:00

The key to improving is not to get invested in the outcome. Don't focus so much on how the girl react to you, focus on finding things that you enjoy about each interaction. After you get blown out, think about something that was funny about the interaction, and what you think you could've done better.

Other than that, you just have to push on through, and have faith that it will get better (it does). I find that doing more approaches in a set usually helps me relax a bit. I accept that the first three or four are going to clumsy, and after I've blown out those few, I usually get into a state where getting blown out doesn't really bother me so much.

Moreover, if you really want to find out what's wrong with your game, write field reports. Write down things that went well, and areas to think you could improve. Over time, you'll start noticing patterns of behaviour that are holding you back.

You should also take a look at this video, you'll get some good ideas that will improve your approaches: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9mmf8lXP6nw

Title	I don't fucking get it.
Author	zach84
Upvotes	6
Comments	21
Date	April 15, 2017 4:45 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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