I have approach anxiety, I keep missing obviously interested girls because I’m too much of a wuss. I need some help

SnooCheesecakes6900 · 2022-06-19T07:05:53+00:00

No magic pill or tactic just need to get some balls and start approaching women. Stop fearing rejection for every 10 women you approach you’ll be lucky to get 3 numbers

nevertextgoodnight · 2022-06-19T08:46:27+00:00

Anxiety is a needy behavior. Avoiding rejection is that neediness.You're perpetuating your cycle of neediness by not approaching. The only way to overcome this is to take action. It's not the success of a date or a lay that overcomes the needy behavior. But it is the act of accepting your rejections as a mandatory process of success.

ChewyButterMilk · 2022-06-19T07:13:31+00:00

Honestly, when you overthink it the chance that you will approach goes down. So you have to just go for it as soon as you see someone you might like.

I’ve noticed that if i do hesitate, i get more nervous and when i do eventually approach i’m not at the top of my game. However, when i have just went for it with no hesitation it is easier to be myself and be confident.

Another thing that helps is to warm up socially, just by saying hi or having a conversation with somebody else. The anxiety goes down after you start talking with more and more people along with girls. But keep in mind that the anxiety usually creeps back up the next time, maybe the next day or next week, you want to approach so this method helps me warm up a bit.

good luck

Interesting-Music601 · 2022-06-20T03:30:41+00:00

Lots and lots of rejection will kill anxiety. One summer of door to door sales killed any and all of my approach anxiety. I think 1/20 people that answered the door didn’t yell at me or slam the door in my face. That one person that gives you the time of day is at least intrigued. Just be curious about them and learn playful banter. If they like you, you’ll close. If not, then there are plenty of doors that need knocking. So my advice: get a summer job selling solar panels. That’ll grow some hair on your balls.

Amikatey · 2022-06-19T18:58:02+00:00

Practice Talking to people (women) Not yourself... You can start with something as low+risk as asking for the time or direction, you will love yourself for that. And you can move on from there.

IsWhoMichaelWhat · 2022-06-19T07:19:44+00:00

Maybe she’s just looking? If she wants you she’ll approach or make things very easy for you.

letmereaddamnit · 2022-06-19T23:34:57+00:00

What do you think is going to happen? What ever it is it probably won't be that bad. Females in general don't like to come across as mean so they'll probably be nice about it if they reject you, and if not then cou t it as a W because you dodged a bullet.

Calamity__Bane · 2022-06-20T00:11:06+00:00

Your fear is stupid and is holding you back. The next time it appears, tell it to get fucked and do the exact opposite of what it’s telling you. Yes, there’s a chance you’ll screw up, but I guarantee you that your screwup won’t be as bad as you were afraid of, and that the more you do it, the less afraid you’ll be, and the less likely you’ll screw up.

Due-Impress-308 · 2022-06-20T05:24:24+00:00

I am currently learning approach too. Start small. First just say hello to 5 strangers. Then try make conversation.. If you afraid of rejection. Purposes go get rejected a bunch time, so you get used too it. Learn to not take it personally. Try used a different identity. Make a bit easier to not take personally, because you are using different identity. Once you get good at approaching. Good rules is if you want approach someone, do it within 5 sec. After 5 sec you will start having all different excuses in head. Is okay to mess up, but always be learning from mess up.

Title	I have approach anxiety, I keep missing obviously interested girls because I’m too much of a wuss. I need some help
Author	MagicArcher101
Upvotes	11
Comments	15
Date	June 19, 2022 6:10 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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