I need some help on people not hating me/finding me annoying

NewAndExistingUser · 2016-05-03T20:06:21+00:00

You could be criticizing everything. At first it's funny and people like it but the longer they know you they think it's serious and when you criticize them they take it personally because that is who you are in their eyes. I had a friend from high- school who did this and never stopped. I gave him a couple chances, told him I wouldn't hang with him if he was going to be bitching about everything. Called him out all the fucking time because nobody seemed to have enough balls to say anything and stick up for themselves. This would fall under the category of a frame problem.

J_A_B_88 · 2016-05-03T23:47:33+00:00

Make sure you don't cut people off mid sentence. You may be saying random funny things/ or playfully being sarcastic but if you continue to cut people off when they are trying to tell a story and your input is just random/not necessary to the conversation that is when it's annoying.

iedaiw · 2016-05-04T00:58:12+00:00

This may or may not apply here. But I once read this somewhere and it really resonated with me.

The only thing worse than ___ is being insecure about it. Don't worry too much about changing their feelings because you can't. What you can do is just be the best version of yourself

TheXXL · 2016-05-04T10:01:12+00:00

I dont know how to change myself because i feel like i have to say something great everytime i talk to girls or just anybody

This is your enemy. You try hard to make them like you. This is annoying since it's fake, and weak. Step back with that, develop a natural humor that is not there to entertain people, rather than entertaining yourself, and even then you will never be free of people not liking you. It happens to everyone.

I have a pretty dark and hard humor sometimes, and more often than not i spit out something i could laugh my ass off, but people look at me like if i just killed a puppy. Shit happens, change topics, keep calm and confident, and you will see people will forget it in another minute. In the long run you will see that more people will like you, even though you are not always funny.

Rashka69s · 2016-05-04T14:43:44+00:00

Teasing is about finesse. How and what you're saying can come off entirely different than your intent. Make sure you aren't cutting too deep with your words. Your delivery is also really important. If you're just straight up dropping insults, you're going to find yourself on an island. Playful jabs with smiles are the hits you're aiming for.

Title	I need some help on people not hating me/finding me annoying
Author	I_Main_TwistedFate
Upvotes	2
Comments	9
Date	May 3, 2016 7:31 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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