I want to change things. Especially after my whining over the last few days. I've come to the conclusion that I've never really learned how to flirt. With the exception of when I'm more or less drunk and feeling very confident. But that's not a solution. My dates usually look the same. I'm pretty good at holding a conversation but not attracting attention. We talk, I try to keep eye contact, and some harmless banter here and there, but that's it. That's not going to help. I know there are dating coaches out there, but most of them flirt very aggressively, while my goal is just to bring some romantic/sexual attention in a date. Some even flirt for fun, so how can I make this work in my everyday life? My looks are good enough so girls are interested in me, but im very cold and distant most of the time. I know these things are mostly very basic things, but i need to work on that before i go on the next date. Im really grateful for any help.