Hot girl from online and I was advised by my female friend to be a gentleman because I thought this one was special—marriage material.

For the record, I’m no stranger to one night stands, intimacy, escalation or anything like that. But I was trying to do it right with her.

I was getting mixed signals. So I asked her on date 4, straight up. She apologized and explained yadda, yadda, yadda.

At that point, I said F it and started doing my usual shtick—touching her, asking her to dance when no one was dancing, stopping during our walk until she held my hand, and chatting with strangers on the street to try to keep her on her toes.

When we got to her car, we kissed, I grabbed her by her hips, pulled her close, grabbed her ass and told her to text me when she got to work. (She had a work function to go to.) Through the evening we were basically sexting.

My point... none really. I just wanted to brag lol. I kid I kid.

My point is two things helped me and I hope it may help others.

1) Because of the mixed signals, I went into the date thinking I was going to confront her. I didn’t brew over it. If a girl has you confused, tell her as I did. “You confuse me. Here’s why...”

2) I was willing to risk dropping her. It gave me confidence. Decide and commit. I wasn’t doubting myself. Think through the problem, come up with a logical conclusion then role the die. But be willing to let her go.

One more thing... if a strategy isn’t working, change strategy. The gentleman routine didn’t work with her. (It might with some, of course.)

I hope this is helpful to some of you.