I'll just hug you for now [slight rant]

joypark202 · 2017-06-13T23:18:39+00:00

It really seems like you were just trying to get in to their pants. I mean if you were a girl, would you want a guy who clearly wants nothing more than getting into your pants? From all of the "slight rant", it seems like that your only goal was to have sex with girls. That should never be your goal. like /u/Kenic_In_MD said your goal should always be having fun with them. Spend time with them, hang out with them without expectation. The more you tunnel vision onto having sex, losing your virginity in this case, the less success you'll have.

I do not think you comprehend the idea of getting with a girl. This means you actually spend time with them without think what you have, what you have done, or what you have achieved. You should be doing things that is fun for both of you and let go of those expectation that you have implanted in your brain. Just go with the flow. If she shows sign that she wants you to kiss her, then do it. If not, who cares. You had fun. It is their lost.

I think at this point, it is the best for you to work on your inner-self. Know what is fun to you, what you want in a girl, and what makes you happy as a human being. Make sure you know it well yourself. If you are really who you say you are, girls can sense that and will gravitate towards you. I had issues when I was around your age too. Then I spent a lot of time doing self discovery, and now I only hang out with girls that I like to hang with while turning down others that I am not interested. I am confident and everyone knows. Once you learn more about who you really are deep down, you will not have any issues getting girls.

P.S. tinder sucks go meet girls in real life, aka much easier to talk to and do stuff with. Tinder allows girls to judge you based solely on appearance. In real life on the other hand, will allow girls to see more dimensions of you and it is much easier to attract them that way.

Let me know what you think

marthdotsk · 2017-06-14T14:05:13+00:00

Despite years of hitting the gym and getting fit. Decking out my wardrobe and having a good sense of style, getting an internship in the financial sector with an amazing company after attending a top university I still can't have any success with women. It sucks. It just doesn't seem fair how sex and love are such a normal part of the life of most men my age and it just isn't for me.

It seems like you expected sex to be handed to you on a silver platter, as if you were entitled to it, as if you deserved it. And this is what kills it entirely: the expectation, the entitlement.

There's one common item with all your failed dates, and no, it's not the fact that you dated WOMEN, it's the fact that YOU, as you are right now, were involved. There are some critical points you need to change in your mindset.

1- Neediness MUST go away! You don't NEED to get laid to have a good life. Getting laid is a BYPRODUCT of leading a good life.

2- Nobody owes you shit. Women don't owe you sex. No matter how "unfair" it is. You're not entitled to it. Nobody is. But you can get it once you understand it's not a matter of "fairness", and that, there will be times, many times, when that won't happen. If you have expectations, they will be crushed at one point or another, and you'll feel like you feel right now. But it's not their fault, it's yours for expecting something that is not owed to you in any way.

3- While being result-oriented works great in the workplace, seduction is NOT the workplace. Detach yourself from any outcome, go for it, generate fun and attraction, make it a positive emotional roller-coaster for women you approach while being the one in control of the ride. If you lose control of the ride (or yourself, for that matter), it'll most likely crash and burn.

You have the tools to start the interaction. You need the tools to keep it going and close it properly. The three points above will take you to your own tools, should you choose to consider them.

Kenic_In_MD · 2017-06-13T22:49:13+00:00

I work so hard with girls

Have you tried having fun with the girl? Like actually enjoying your time with her. I mean you are putting in all this effort I hope you are having fun at least. If you are not having fun then don't try so hard. Of course put in some effort to get to know them but if they are more work then they are worth, move on.

This helped me a bit too, if I'm not having a good time and I mean geniunely I let that shit go. I work hard enough as it is, and I am also self sufficient. If she isn't down for the cause I keep it moving because there are too many girls that are.

richardspanther · 2017-06-14T02:22:16+00:00

Are you ugly? Not trying to be harsh, but if your face looks like a turd, then primo pussy might not be in the cards.

Title	I'll just hug you for now [slight rant]
Author	younglad2016
Upvotes	1
Comments	12
Date	June 13, 2017 10:21 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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