I'm giving up guys. Something is seriously wrong with me.

Minute-Lie-2287 · 2022-03-03T06:16:24+00:00

Giving up guys probably will help you get girls. I mean if nothing else your attention won't be divided.

ReorgAtty · 2022-03-03T04:18:32+00:00

You’re 28. Don’t give yourself a final destination before you’ve even had your first stop.

Don’t kill yourself. Take a breather from all this stuff and don’t force yourself to think you should be doing something that doesn’t resonate with you. You’re going to hit your stride and you’ll look back on this post and feel extremely silly.

I only have one piece of advice for you: stop trying so hard. Take it easy, it’ll work itself out. The second you actually step back, things will fall into place. Just give it time and relax dude. And stay the fuck away from rooftops for a bit.

Edit: also, stop with the hammer shit. Lmk if you want someone to talk to.

DarkHorizon999 · 2022-03-03T06:44:04+00:00

My friend has experienced similar stuff when cold approaching - he's autistic. I'm not saying you're autistic, but you gotta figure some things out within yourself. Maybe seek counseling. Also,the autistic friend managed to get it down at last

incognito3107 · 2022-03-03T09:45:51+00:00

You seem to get really harsh on yourself for not meeting present girls' stupid standards. It's a ridiculous way to be. You need to stay relaxed and happy to attract people. Enjoy your life and be proud of who you are. Getting laid sometimes requires huge leap in your mindset and behaviour and that may take some time, but there are really a lot more important aspects of your life.

kidnumb94 · 2022-03-03T10:22:57+00:00

Your giving women or the outside world too much power of how you speak or see your self ask your self this simple things like what's causing you to feel this emotions and how can you improve them if any thing seek help bro thinking about sucide is the easy way out you got this 💯

Chicagoj1563 · 2022-03-03T11:11:23+00:00

Your obviously not having fun which is one of the core fundamentals of cold approach. Youre taking it all way too seriously which seems like your downfall. Lots of inner game issues.

I would focus on not being so over dramatic about all this and develop a new attitude. Again, it should be fun learning social skills.

Then when you’re ready, get a coach to help you with sticking points you are having.

arrowhe · 2022-03-03T13:21:34+00:00

Okay i understand what you mean, the anger when you cant go talk to a stranger even if you know there is nothing bad going to happen, trust me approach anxiety has stopped me from sooooo many good opportunities i cant even tell you... and it sucked. I am 25,Indian and my english accent comes in my way so much...but just know this ... you should never give up!!!... give your friend 100 dollar and tell him if you dont approach 10 girls then he can keep that money. If this doesnot work... start small .. just compliment people in public and leave, be it boys or girls. Build your momentum from small. You cant go in the gym and in the first minute lift the heaviest weight possible thats why you warm up. Hope it helps..if you want to give up remeber why u started.

nachetb · 2022-03-03T21:20:52+00:00

Have you tried live coaching?

intensityuntilgoal · 2022-03-03T09:54:02+00:00

yooo chill dawg. Just try your best.

Czekraft · 2022-03-03T18:29:40+00:00

For what it's worth, I don't believe in cold approaching random women, so I don't recommend you doing it either. What did help me though was the book Flirting 101. While I was reading it, I tried a lot of the exercises that helped me switch my mindset, and my life pretty much changed from there. It's so weird to think where I would be right now if I didn't read it. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

wayoflifeforme · 2022-03-03T19:15:40+00:00

Um, one thing I noticed why guys don’t get girls is because they think just saying some scripted bullshit is going to work.

Do you workout? Are you ripped? Do you have a good job? Are your grades good? Do you dress well? Are you fun to be around? Do you have positive and realistic dreams? Do you actually care about others or is this just a scheme to get your dick wet?

Answer me all of those questions, and I’ll point out why you can’t get girls. I’ll personally do that for you right now.

Vigeto619 · 2022-03-03T19:57:18+00:00

Try drugs and alcohol

who_am_i_talking_too · 2022-03-03T22:52:46+00:00

next time u want to approach someone or otherwise do something scary, just think: 20 seconds of bravery is all you need

Ignore everything else, after the 20 seconds do whatever you want, but for 20 seconds you are superhuman, nothing can happen to u

Also this sub is obsessed with game or cold approaching or whatever, it doesn’t matter if u can do it or not, stop trying so hard to cold approach. If you’ve put in a lot of effort and u still can’t do it, don’t feel bad, just take a break from it, focus on some aspect of urself and try again in a few months, it’s not that deep.

And stop acting like a fool, u are physically harming urself and u posted this actively insulting and deprecating urself? Stop pitying urself so much, goddamn. U have 2 arms and 2 legs, and ur good looking enough to be going on dates. So chill out a bit. If ur truly having anxiety problems speak with a therapist or seek some other form of help, it’s just a bump in the road in ur life.

Meanwhile i suggest volunteering so you can gain some perspective on ur situation in life; some people have it a lot better, some have it a lot worse, and some people would literally kill to be in ur position. Hell, just the fact that you’re alive means ur lucky af. Some kids die of cancer at age 12, and would have given everything to live another day, even if they spent that day just walking around in the city

Iistendipshit · 2022-03-03T23:08:28+00:00

Based on your post and comments, I suggest therapy. Seriously, you need help and postponing it will only make things harder

Sufficient-Dust8575 · 2022-03-04T01:52:39+00:00

Coming from another late bloomer with the ladies, I think I know how you’re feeling somewhat. I use to always think about my lack of experience with women and it crushed me inside. However, once I had my first serious relationship, I realized that that’s not what life is all about. I was angry at myself just like you seem to be for my lack of experience. It’s essential to realize that you shouldn’t base all of your self worth on whether or not you’re with a girl. Once you do find a girl that loves you for you (which you will), you’ll realize intimacy is a lot more simple/easy than what it seems to be when you don’t have any experience. In the meantime, I’d suggest doing what you feel passionate about outside the realm of intimacy and let the relationships/intimacy come to you. Don’t be so hard on yourself. I hear a lot of me in the words you’ve shared and I am in a happy place now. Focus on yourself. Focus on making friends. And perhaps, those friendships will blossom into something more.

Robofrogg1 · 2022-03-04T14:06:30+00:00

Bro you are being waaaay to hard on yourself!! The shit you are trying to do is NOT easy for almost anyone! What you are going through is NORMAL!!

You are getting out there and trying to get out of your comfort zone every day and that alone is more than a lot of guys can do. Give yourself some credit, man, and stop listening to that negative voice in your head that tells you all that bs to keep you safe.

Now for the advice: baby steps!! Right now you are trying to bench 500 pounds on the first day at the gym— you are setting yourself up for failure. Don’t start going right up to girls and asking them out. That’s insane.

Instead, start by just walking around public areas and waving and smiling at people. When you are comfy enough wo5 that, start complimenting people or stop and ask them for directions, recommendations, etc. And I mean all people, not just hot girls.

Once you are good with that, then start having short conversations, etc.

Keep escalating as you get comfortable. It’s a PROCESS and takes time. But you are SUPER young. I wish I’d started learning this at your age. I didn’t start until I was 50!!!

You’ve got this, man!

ChrisThatGamer · 2022-03-05T03:46:18+00:00

I'm not sure if troll. However, the suicidal part of the post triggered me. So, if you read the advice I provide, that's great. If not, that's fine as well. Even though I'm younger, I know a little about how you feel. I don't want to go into detail about my life. So, let's summarize and get to the good stuff, help you OP. My parents are extremely strict, which means I never went out in middle school, high school, mostly college, and even now. As a result I was a late bloomer, you get the picture. Did I eventually get a girl and have all the nonsense you desire? Yes. However, It was not worth it. Why? She wasn't good, and she caused more harm than good. Girls can tell when you're desperate and have nothing else to do. This is something you may not want to hear. That is, find things you enjoy doing, and people who speak your nerd language. Whatever that might be. That is not to say, it will be easy. But as a man in this world, no one is going to come to your rescue OP. Only we can protect ourselves. Remember, females are cherries in life, you can do without. Do not allow yourself, to “lower” your values for a relationship, this goes for all genders.

SonOfSatan · 2022-03-05T12:04:11+00:00

Honestly if you feel like giving up that is the point you need to push it just a little further and you will suddenly stop giving a shit and that is the best way to be. But seriously man if you are having suicidal thoughts and engaging in self harm you need help, please try to get some therapy and if it's not available then at least open up to someone you trust, you need to put yourself first before trying to get with some girl, maybe rather than 'giving up' you just need to take a break and focus on your own wellbeing. You are human and you can't avoid your desires, it will only make you more miserable, give up for good and you'll be left yearning. And honestly bro? What you are feeling is normal, most guys do not have the guts to approach a random girl and would never do it, you need to give yourself a massive pat on the back for putting yourself out there, you've done way more than 95% of guys and you should be proud of yourself for braving the elements. Sending you love brother

Title	I'm giving up guys. Something is seriously wrong with me.
Author	DarkHorizon999
Upvotes	9
Comments	39
Date	March 3, 2022 3:49 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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