[Inner Game] DAE ever get the impression we're making this a lot harder on ourselves than we have to?

2012-10-19T14:25:35+00:00

Yes, but it takes a lot of practice to reach a point where you can say, "lol holy fuck, I used to spend THIS much effort!?" When you start "getting it", it's like a massive increase in your game.

Nexus2045 · 2012-10-19T06:33:40+00:00

It seems you've experienced a shift in the right direction - to accept yourself in the present moment. Reading too much inner game has also caused me to evaluate my feelings far too much and attach all these unnecessary labels to them.

DrunkAtTheWedding · 2012-10-19T07:02:02+00:00

I would say fuck yea to giving less fucks and not trying to be perfect. In life it is the journey that matters, so I guess I disagree with being good enough as is. Change is always good, but moving back isn't. Which leaves only one way left to go. Forwards! You are fucking kick ass for taking such a good look at what life is really all about!

SaysYuck · 2012-10-19T17:37:55+00:00

Hey, OP, let me ask you a question:

Do you think you had to go through this effort, in order to get to a level where you dont care? Or do you think you could have skipped the hassle?

In other words, do you feel like you just wasted a ton of time? or do you feel like this was a necessary step on the path of personal development?

Just curious how you see it!

puaCurveBall · 2012-10-19T18:09:42+00:00

he more I'm trying to be happy

Inner game isn't trying to make yourself happy, it is about understanding successful mindsets that you can initially fake, and then grow into as you get real world success in your interactions.

No inner-game i've read has advocated being afraid of failure or talked about competing with failure, that is not the result of working on inner-game, imho. Neither is having crazy high standards.

I'm good enough as-is and you are too.

I disagree.

Here me out, there is a difference between being hard on yourself because you aren't where you need to be, and being content with where you are at, because you know you are on a path to something greater.

Think about this like you are Usain Bolt running a race. Now, should you be hard on yourself at the beginning because obviously it would be better if you were 10 ft forward already? Should you think you are a failure because you are still at the starting line instead of immediately 10 feet into race?

What about halfway through the race, should you feel like crap because you know where the finish line is at, but have only had enough time to get to halfway mark?

That is how little sense it makes to be upset with your progress with pickup / inner-game.

However, if you are "good enough" (in long-term) with where you are at, then you aren't going to run the race. So fuck that, be happy with your progress and where you are at, but always be looking for that next goal, that next plateau!

You can keep both this attitude of being content and not worrying about failure, while still knowing that in the future, you want to be ahead of where you are at now.

prunck · 2012-10-20T04:33:12+00:00

You have it exactly right, but not in the way you realize.

You say you are good enough and that you are not afraid of failure. The first part is not true. Not that you are not good, but you can always do better.

The second part is more interesting and you have unwittingly unlocked the secret to success.

Failure.

Think about it. When in your life has doing something easily and flawlessly ever helped you improve? That doesn't even make sense. The only way to improve is to fail. You don't learn from success because you can't see where you need more work.

So get out there and fail, and screw being good enough. Your standards are too high for that.

seemorehappy · 2012-10-20T14:18:20+00:00

Thank you for this; it what i needed right now.

Title	[Inner Game] DAE ever get the impression we're making this a lot harder on ourselves than we have to?
Author	Napoleon_Blownaparte
Upvotes	7
Comments	11
Date	October 19, 2012 6:04 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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