Is getting good at approaching women...

brianbria · 2017-08-25T02:55:30+00:00

Yes. I've seen improvement in social anxiety as a result of approaching women and talking to people at bars while sober. Your results may differ.

digitalbitch2 · 2017-08-25T06:42:46+00:00

No. Trying to approach women will increase your anxiety because it is a pressured. You need to start off small. Talking to the cashier or waitress, they are people who are paid to like you. Then you slowly ratchet up your interactions with more and more people. Not necessarily women. Once you can talk to everyone, chatting to women will come naturally.

Twobithatter · 2017-08-25T02:29:05+00:00

Put your self at the center and get used to being there

gcool7 · 2017-08-25T05:28:21+00:00

Get comfortable with being uncomfortable

essexaspie · 2017-08-25T08:34:56+00:00

I'd actually say 'yes'.

It's a form of exposure therapy, I guess. It' quite extreme, though. I mean, i'm sure we all know some generally confident people who have no social anxiety, but who would NEVER have the balls to go and approach some random hot girl. So doing it (especially with SA) is ballsy! But that's where competence comes into play. You have the confidence to try due to reading about it and stuff

After doing it a few times, other things that might typically give someone with SA anxiety (say phoning up their bank or asking a stranger for the time or whatever) seem a lot easier. I guess it's about numbing them 'bitch butterflies'!

The fact that i've had SA my whole life (and none of my friends do) and yet am one of the few people out or my 300 friends or so who has the balls and who has actually pulled from cold approach is maybe some sort of testament to this. I still have SA though, but during times of really putting myself out there, it lessens in general

1z1z2x2x3c3c4v4v · 2017-08-25T10:58:32+00:00

Social Anxiety and Approach Anxiety are closely related.

Learning to be comfortable approaching girls will have a similar effect when in social situations.

Usually, you work on your social issues first... and the girl issue is an added benefit.

Here is some great exercises you can do to get over your SA\AA:

http://www.christiangreypua.com/beginner-pua-challenge-overcoming-approach-anxiety/

I did something similar where I started approaching and talking to people in retail, cashiers, clerks, waitresses and hostesses first. Took about a year or two, but after that, I had no problems talking to people... then I moved on to girls...

You just need to train your brain that its OK to talk to people, and to talk to girls... and that not everyone will want to talk to you... but some will. Both outcomes are OK.

It doesn't take long...

Hector_Castillo · 2017-08-25T12:41:09+00:00

Uh, yes. Get good and comfortable at cold approaching women and most social anxiety should disappear. Only thing left after that is social circle game, where you're worried about the long-term opinions of people you care about.

Title	Is getting good at approaching women...
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Date	August 25, 2017 2:22 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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