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[–][deleted] 106 points107 points108 points 7 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
Confidence is attractive. But be weary of being arrogant in lieu of confident.
[–]BlurryEcho 67 points68 points69 points 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
To add to this:
[–]Aeon199 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Confidence is knowing who you are and what you have and/or can accomplish
Can you know that you're an autistic guy in his mid 30s, who can't have a traditional job, has trouble with all manner of practical life skills, and has a very low ceiling for improvement?
I might mention my special interests, decent looks, and such, but it's not enough considering the above.
[–]wavefield 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
In any case focusing on all the bad things is a quick path to rejection. People like positive people, even if their ideas might not be very realistic. Wet_walrus definition below is better
[–]Wet_Walrus 14 points15 points16 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Confidence isn’t thinking every girl wants you.
Confidence is knowing you’ll be just fine whether they want you or not.
[–]DajuanKev 2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I like this definition more.
[–]sadomasochrist 5 points6 points7 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Arrogance is positively correlated to female arousal.
[–]Handsome_Claptrap 3 points4 points5 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'd say confidence it's the arousing thing, it's just that arrogant people are generally confident too.
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[–]mwooddog 4 points5 points6 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Right back at ya, dick
[–]AnyCommittee 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Is it though? Like imagine some chick just flipping her hair and arching her back and smiling and winking at you, that’s some cocky shit, and it’s hot af
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[–]gdu090 19 points20 points21 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Short answer : yes
The most affective thing you can do when out at a club or whatever is relax with your friends and enjoy yourself.
Never mind any of this “game” “pua” shite, smile, have fun and dance and the girls / guys will come.
[–]Positivezero4 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Facts
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yea pick up game and Night clubs don't really mix, contrary to popular belief. If you focus on girls too much at a club you're just going to ruin your own night. If it happens, it happens, don't force it. Just enjoy the energy!
[–]wowzacowza 2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don't think it would be classified as either attractive or not attractive because it depends on too many other things. Not caring what other people think of you could be attractive but mostly because you're not seeking validation and you're not trying to build rapport. Those two things are mostly unattractive, but super common, so by not doing them you'll seem more attractive. On the other hand, not caring what other people think of you could be unattractive because it displays a social disconnect, meaning you aren't high value socially. Part of being a decent person is being well adjusted, and if you walk around oblivious to what others think of you, that's not well adjusted, it's just denial.
I'd say the key is self esteem more than not giving a fuck. Basically, don't give a fuck when something's trying to bring you down, but give a fuck if it's positive.
[–]JacksonCreed4425 2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The asshole characters and generally the most liked. As like as they have redeeming quality such as Drive or ambition
[–]ColdCaulkCraig 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
People try way too hard to apply "confidence". The secret is to just live your life and not make the primary focus on women. If you have an interesting life and you put yourself out there, things just fall into place.
[–]PolesWithGoals 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I mean I think it is but girls at my school don’t agree
Yes, very.
[–]kellykebab 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Nah, not really.
[–]Sandvicheater 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Balancing act between confident and douche
Check out the book “The Subtle Art if Not Giving a Fuck” by Mark Manson.
I think caring deeply for yourself and others but not caring what they think is attractive.
Not wanting to kill a man but willing and able to kill a man.
You see being an alpha male is as complicated as understanding women.
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