Is she interested?

Important-Quote9544 · 2022-02-07T21:47:19+00:00

"Next time" means not happening. That joke you made was an opportunity to show her interest but her response was a clear indication of no interest. I think she sees you as a friend. If she was interested in you she would ask to meet up after dinner

tafexmix · 2022-02-07T20:51:40+00:00

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BrandonLloydTanner · 2022-02-07T20:28:30+00:00

Bro you type too much

tafexmix · 2022-02-07T21:03:57+00:00

Got it, type too much, I'll type less. How do I communicate more complicated stuff by not typing that much?

ZosoWicca · 2022-02-07T21:01:37+00:00

Too intense. Type less.

Donny4RealThisTime · 2022-02-07T23:36:40+00:00

How the hell do you think someone is interested in you by that exchange?

Twix1958 · 2022-02-08T07:19:09+00:00

Why is everyone focusing on typing less, it's not like typing less would have fixed the problem, just be honest with her how you think, just text her if you could call one time, and just casually suggest that you would love to go on a date. Dating is never about learning rules (like texting too much) and if you text too much, there is probably some deeper issue that you have that may have something to do with putting affection from woman too high on your priority list. Just text however you want, and as long you keep improving yourself, you will text in the exact way that will attract your type of girls, you don't want to date every girls, only the ones that suit you.

SiriusleighLoL · 2022-02-07T23:30:53+00:00

From this inkling that you showed us, she’s not clearly “interested” in you. She’s being nice and open to talking to you.

If you care about her, then just hang out. You’re not going to get your dick wet, don’t expect it, don’t even think about it. Just have fun with her if the opportunity comes. Go to the park, have dinner, become friends. Most importantly, let her make the move. She knows how you feel about her and if she decides to be with you, which she’d let you know, then more power to you. She’s not obligated to pick you, and worst case scenario, you meet a friend, which is a vector for a social life and a group of people.

fuckboychadlmao · 2022-02-08T00:38:28+00:00

You seem way too excited in these texts. Giving off thirsty vibes.

cronasminate · 2022-02-08T09:25:59+00:00

She's a tease. It's the same pattern for women who like the attention in order to keep you as an orbiter.

Sends you a catchy low effort text.
You give her attention.
She gets it and you invite her out.

Then one of three happens as for the date:

She says next time or she "might" consider it if things align.
She "entertains it" and makes you think she will do it before she backs out last minute due to "unforeseen" circumstances.
You go through all the hoops, her main plan doesn't go as planned and she goes to your date as you greet her like a happy little dog waiting for scraps of her time. You pay for her food, shower her with compliments and you think you made progress.

It's chess match because:

If you get upset and ask her why she keeps canceling then you lose.
If you try to hard and push too hard then you become too needy and she pulls back. You lose.

The only good move would be to:

Forget the last conversation. Re-engage and reignite the conversation and go through the whole step of getting her excited for something and then go through all the steps of setting up a date all over again.

But guess what?

This is a low probability game. It will never end with you getting laid. You'll just end up emotionally attached to her because you've spent so much time trying to sleep with her while she invests nothing. Hence you become an orbiter, which seems like you already are.

If a girl doesn't let you escalate, drop her. If she doesn't commit to a date. Drop her. If she makes an excuse for why she can't commit, drop her. You are better off being more selective of who you invest your time into and you'll have more effective use of your time and you will be a much happier person.

jtaylor27141 · 2022-02-08T12:39:21+00:00

Quickest and best way to find out-‘I’d love to get together this next week. When are you free?’ If she gives you days and times, there is some interest. If she dodges the question right away or you get ‘I’ll get back to you’ she’s not too interested.

recyclablebanthas · 2022-02-09T23:50:38+00:00

1

I "joked" about dating her and she said "I don't date colleagues".

It might seem like this is a way to check her buying temperature or something, but it's not.

Joking about dating is essentially putting the cart before the horse. It's like a salesman joking, "So how do you want to pay for this?" before the customer prospect has even had a chance to find out if they're really down.

The way to find out if she's down is to just suggest meeting up.

2

Today I found out she was coming to the city I live and told her to maybe see each other in case she still had enough time after whatever business she had going on and she told me she'd let me know whenever she knew more about the activity itself.

Sounds noncommittal on her part but your approach was better here, in suggesting to hang.

3

A few hours later she texted me saying that she'd be having dinner with friends so it'd be too late, that she'd see me "next time" whatever that means.

She meant what she said. Out with dinner and would be out too late for her to want to explore an interaction with you when she's not sure how it will go yet.

Sometimes, one just doesn't want to spend time on such a thing that late in the day/night if there's uncertainty.

It's just human nature. Catch her at a better time.

4

But then she told me about the activity she had:

So you ought to have kept it at suggesting to meet up for zombie killing. The context is not in the pic though. Was this a video game?

5

Edit: Conversation continued for a little longer but I put myself in a sort of stagnant situation. After a bit of chitchat (daring to cook me dinner if I won killing zombies, she asked if I wanted to take that risk etc.)

Dude. Just suggest hanging out. Simple. That's it. Stop trying to hint at all these other things with the bits about cooking dinner or dating.

Just suggest hanging out and go meet her one on one and see what's what.

6

I told her that I may go to skate to a park that's close by her place and she said she used to live 2 minutes away from the park, but that she moved and now it's 10 min away and that's it, no more interaction from any of us.

This was a nothing burger.

You were talking about randomly doing something that didn't relate to anything important and she responded with something equally pointless.

You're playing 4D chess in your own mind and only confusing yourself, man.

This isn't some tricky thing. You suggest hanging out. People react to that by either going along with that or rejecting the idea in nice or mean ways.

That's it for this part of the process.

FIVE_6_MAFIA · 2022-02-07T23:47:22+00:00

The texts seem like a perfectly normal length, I think they are just trolling you.

2022-02-08T08:36:55+00:00

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Unable_Orange_451 · 2022-02-08T03:10:29+00:00

I see people say you type too much , or why are you putting those emojis, but this is who you are if you wanted to type less or dont put emojis and type like them, then you would be them not you if that makes sense :) do what ever you like to and type like whatever you like too . And I'm so sorry to say that , don't waste your time with her , she is not interested at all .

2022-02-07T23:42:34+00:00

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FlatDistance5 · 2022-02-08T01:02:22+00:00

Is she your coworker? And how much do you talk to her? How much do you know about her

-She’s interested but I’ll tell you how you can turn it into a date

GroundbreakingAd8077 · 2022-02-08T01:07:23+00:00

She does not want any penis

RentFreeInYourHeads · 2022-02-08T01:31:06+00:00

Did you try moving things forward?

tafexmix · 2022-02-08T01:56:20+00:00

I personally don't think so, and that's a good thing, because dating colleagues, even units removed from you, can be troublesome.

Corndesu69 · 2022-02-08T02:56:54+00:00

Yeah don’t fucking ruin it

GordonGecko69 · 2022-02-08T03:33:47+00:00

There is not a single IOI. You should NEVER shit where you eat. But you damn sure shouldn’t do it when she isn’t even interested. Just stop!

introsetsam · 2022-02-08T04:42:30+00:00

omg don’t change yourself because some single dudes on reddit told you you type too much. how you type is just fine. it makes conversation easier when there is more stuff to respond to. no one likes having conversation with a dude who just says one sentence only every time

introsetsam · 2022-02-08T04:45:13+00:00

honestly she seems like she COULD be interested in another world. based on what you said, she clearly doesn’t wanna date a coworker still and it doesn’t sound like you guys live near each other at all? she probably doesn’t want a fling and that’s what you would be. a situation of right person wrong time, perhaps. i wouldn’t take it too personally

2022-02-08T05:18:50+00:00

"Maybe" usually means "no".

Girls are saying different things and make up rules, but then this one right guy comes and she changes herself 180 degree.

She considers you a friend and clearly keeps you at bay.

stanthemilkman88 · 2022-02-08T07:15:38+00:00

Come on dude. It what world with 2 rejections be that she is interested? Clear as day.

Sup3rHD · 2022-02-08T11:41:53+00:00

Your text game sucks Improve it

Title	Is she interested?
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Upvotes	14
Comments	83
Date	February 7, 2022 8:13 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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