Issues with Spontaneity

sharpiescribe · 2015-08-15T18:03:44+00:00

Regarding you comment "I've been planning out what I had to say before", YOU NEED TO GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD. Natural conversation falls into the whole notion of "being in the moment". You actions and words need to be congruent with the environment you are in. When talking to a girl, pay attention to the conversational flow you two have and get a sense of the vibe/energy.

If you're at a large social gathering with lots of people (clubs, bars, group class, etc.) you want to focus on talking about bold, exciting, spur-of-the-moment type things to create attraction.

Notice something unique in the environment ("haha Look at this guy over here.")
Playfully challenge her ("I bet you don't know how to do this")
Tell a short funny story ("Yo! Last time I was here, I almost got in a fight...")
Playfully accuse her of something ("lol Why do you keep staring at me?)
Notice her accessories ("I like this bracelet you have")
Tease her on her facial expressions ("lol You're blushing right now")
Tell her to think about something ("Imagine if you just slipped right now and busted your ass in front of everyone. haha")

If you are in a one-on-one situation where you and the girl are isolated from people and the vibe is more slow, mellow, and fluid (Movie on the couch, Outside bar/club, Bedroom, Driving together in the Car) you want to focus on deep, intellectual, and thoughtful conversation for an emotional connection.

Ask her about her personal philosophy ("What's one things you think people miss out on in life?")
Ask her about her thoughts on society ("Do you think college education is really needed in today's world?")
Ask her about her ideas about people ("Why is it that people don't really call each other anymore?")
Ask her about her opinion on social media ("How come people put too much emphasis on getting followers and likes on the internet?")
Ask her about her values ("What would you say is your biggest strength and how has that carried you in life?")
Ask her about her goals/passions ("Ten years from now you're going to be known for something great, what do you want that to be?)

Keep in mind that, planning and making a script for your conversations IS COMPLETELY IMPOSSIBLE!!! The best thing to do is develop a sense of emotional and situational awareness. Meditation is a great way to quiet mental chatter and make you feel more relaxed and free to jive in conversation. Notice your environment, Notice the vibe/energy between you and the girl. Say what's on your mind in that moment.

HorseMuzzle · 2015-08-15T14:01:51+00:00

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Title	Issues with Spontaneity
Author	HorseMuzzle
Upvotes	2
Comments	4
Date	August 15, 2015 1:46 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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