TLDR: Don't gauge how much a girl is into you by how she acts over text/non face-to-face communication. Gauge by how she acts in person. It seems obvious but living in the world we do now, it might not be as apparent to some people/they may not notice that they're not doing it.

Background: Recently, I've started seeing a girl from my uni. She works 12+ hours a day because she pays her own tuition/rent, therefore she doesn't have the time to communicate much through Snapchat or text between meet-ups/dates. She answers pretty much when she can/when she remembers to; when we first started talking, she answered pretty frequently because she didn't work such a rigorous job.

I've been on three dates with this girl now, the former of which ended in a make-out and the latter two of which have ended in sex and me staying over. She constantly insists on paying for things for me such as parking at her place, food when we get it, and even offered to buy me a new belt, not because she broke mine, but because it was a little too big on me. On our most recent meet-up she cooked me dinner at 4am despite having work at 8, because I happened to mention in the passing that I was hungry. She constantly hovers in my intimate space in public (holding my arm/brushing against me repeatedly). She damn-near moans any time I kiss or run my hands along a part of her body. She literally begged me to hurry up and fuck her during foreplay. She's clearly very into me.

So what's the problem? She doesn't respond quickly on Snapchat/text. See, I'm one of those people who, unfortunately, puts a lot of stock in that sort of thing. It drives me nuts. Her leaving my Snapchats on "open" makes my heart drop each time. If she doesn't answer a text I send but she's on Facebook messenger, same thing, I have an internal mini-freakout about it. I'm sure some of you guys can relate. In fact, up until yesterday I was stressing out about the fact that the next time I'm seeing her isn't until Monday (last time I saw her was this past Monday morning when I left her apartment) because then we'd have to communicate exclusively through Snapchat and text, which I find intrinsically stressful. I seem to constantly forget about how deeply infatuated she acts when we're together, and nervously obsess about unanswered messages like I'm some high school sophomore talking to the first girl that touched his dick. It's pathetic.

As someone who overthinks these things really hardcore, remember that the one thing that matters at the end of the day is how the girl treats you in person. That's the best way to gauge how into you she is. Believe it or not, some people just don't like to message much through Snapchat/text, ESPECIALLY if they're busy with work or school or whatever. Sometimes they forget to answer. I'm not saying that this stuff doesn't matter at all, but I'm saying that in-person interactions mean a lot more. This may seem obvious to some, I know. But hopefully for the people that subconsciously put more stock in messages than in-person interactions, this'll help them to get out of their heads, relax a bit, and become less needy. I know writing this up helped me a lot, and although I'm not totally out of that same mindset, I'm working on it. Thanks for reading!