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I've decided I'm going to spend the next several months working 2 jobs to save up to finally get my teeth fixed. What else can I do to improve myself during that time?

kurtgodelisdead · 2012-12-17T21:45:54+00:00

Long story short, I need upwards of $20k for a major surgery to get my teeth fixed. That's not even including the whitening and dental caps that I also...

kurtgodelisdead

December 17, 2012

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Title	I've decided I'm going to spend the next several months working 2 jobs to save up to finally get my teeth fixed. What else can I do to improve myself during that time?
Author	kurtgodelisdead
Upvotes	3
Comments	39
Date	December 17, 2012 9:45 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/150jfx/ive_decided_im_going_to_spend_the_next_several/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/ive-decided-im-going-to-spend-the-next-several.1344381 https://theredarchive.com/post/1344381

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[–]eddkov 4 points5 points6 points 13 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link

[–]kurtgodelisdead[S] -1 points0 points1 point 13 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link

[–]eddkov 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link

weights will make your muscles bigger, but cardio and plyometrics workouts, like the workouts found in Insanity, will lower your bodyfat by a lot and make your muscles harder, so while your muscles might not be bigger by an insane amount, they will be more defined, you will be fitter, and you can add weight lifting to your regimen later, theres nothing stopping you from doing that.

As I understand it you want to build muscles so that women can see you and go wow, but who says all women are attracted to that? Women are attracted to so many different types of guys you dont need to try to be just one kind of guy. Just be confident in yourself as you are in that moment, even if you get bigger or fitter, still be confident in yourself as you are in that moment.

As far as workouts do I can tell you about the best workout in the world. The best workout in the world is......the one you will do. It doesnt matter how ripped or big or fit or skinny you will get from doing a workout if you dont actually do it. So before you start planning your steps to being bigger, find a workout that will challenge you but also that you will be able to do and keep doing.

Sorry this is kind of long and I touched on a few subjects, but mostly I want to prevent you from being the stereotypical guy who thinks the gym only exists for benching and curling, because not only is it annoying, I know many girls who find guys with only big arms and chest disproportionate, uneven, and in some cases unattractive

[–]kurtgodelisdead[S] 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

weights will make your muscles bigger, but cardio and plyometrics workouts, like the workouts found in Insanity, will lower your bodyfat by a lot and make your muscles harder, so while your muscles might not be bigger by an insane amount, they will be more defined, you will be fitter, and you can add weight lifting to your regimen later, theres nothing stopping you from doing that.

From what I understand, diet is more important for losing body fat.

As I understand it you want to build muscles so that women can see you and go wow, but who says all women are attracted to that?

I asked this exact question a while ago:

http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ypa25/how_important_is_it_to_have_muscle_mass_in_order/

Women are attracted to so many different types of guys you dont need to try to be just one kind of guy.

It's more than that. It's also about testosterone and the confidence that being strong and looking strong brings.

Just be confident in yourself as you are in that moment, even if you get bigger or fitter, still be confident in yourself as you are in that moment.

I can be confident in who I am (a scrawny nerd with bad teeth) or I can change myself to become someone (a well built guy with nearly perfect teeth) that I would automatically become confident in.

It doesnt matter how ripped or big or fit or skinny you will get from doing a workout if you dont actually do it.

This is why my weight bench is right outside my bedroom door. I see it every morning and it serves as a $600 reminder about my goals. That works way more than the $20 monthly gym fee that I stopped going to because of time constraints.

So before you start planning your steps to being bigger, find a workout that will challenge you but also that you will be able to do and keep doing.

A friend of mine knows a lot about working out. He got me motivated to buy the equipment and what exercises to learn. He's the one that suggested I add curls.

I'm taking it one step at a time. I plan on adding more exercises.. I just don't want to take on a whole "plan" yet until I'm comfortable with each exercise in the plan.

I know many girls who find guys with only big arms and chest disproportionate, uneven, and in some cases unattractive

I will always have the mirror to decide what I need to work on.

[–]eddkov 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

you say a lot here but like its been said many times before, women find confidence to be the most attractive thing, so if you feel becoming bigger will give you more confidence, go ahead, and whatever you do dont let some douchebag online tell you what to do (me). I just think full workouts are the best thing to do instead of just benching and curling which is what I see so many guys doing in the gym and everywhere else, benching and curling are pretty worthless workouts unless you are only trying to get girls, and the whole point of inner game is to become confident in yourself, to have a great and fun life that you enjoy, and for the greatness of your life to attract women, its not about doing something that will get you laid, its about doing something just because its what you wanna do.

[–]kurtgodelisdead[S] 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

women find confidence to be the most attractive thing

I do not consider my body to be sexy. I would consider a well built body to be more sexy, and having a low body fat even sexier. So that's what I'm after, rather than trying to change my mindset, I'd just change my body. And what do you know? It's the stereotype that the media portrays, thus fits a model of beauty that many women probably have, although definitely not the universally.

I just think full workouts are the best thing to do instead of just benching and curling

I do too. I'm adding each new exercise as I go along.

benching and curling are pretty worthless workouts unless you are only trying to get girls

I don't see what's wrong with having this goal and optimizing for it. If I feel my health will benefit from a full workout, let me decide that later. I may buy a treadmill in the near term future, from which I can get daily cardio.

I'm not familiar with a routine that means a "full workout", and taking on a "full workout" would mean taking on another full time job, which I don't have time for at the moment. Once I've learned all the necessary exercises individually, I can combine them into some kind of "full workout".

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[–]kurtgodelisdead[S] 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

but if your arms become huge and you have skinny legs

I don't have skinny legs. That was the point of my post. I could take measurements if you don't believe me, but my arms are pretty scrawny, while my legs are about average.. I've been mistaken for a pre-pubescent girl when I was 12-13 because of my proportions.

I love to squat and deadlift, and i workout in order to get stronger, more athletic, and just feel better

I have like 50 pairs of size 30in black slacks. If I were to gain in my waist, they wouldn't fit me anymore and I'd have to buy all new clothes, which I'm not interested in right now.

Secondly, I'm pretty good at eyeing my own body I can tell where I'm lacking and where I'm not. I'm interested in seeing results, even if it means being a bit vain; I really don't care. I expect results from advice I get on the Internet.

Focusing all my time on one muscle group will be a big change in my body that I've never had in my 30 years on this planet: the ability to improve my image through shear force of will.

The methods I've used before always cost me money (getting my big ears pinned, some filler under my eyes), and quite a bit.

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I'll tell you a secret, no one else gives a damn about your teeth.

No, I've had at least one very particular experience where a girl was definitely turned off by my teeth. I'll spare you the details, but that first date really sucked.

They may notice, and they may go "eww", but no one is going to let gross teeth stop you from meeting them and interacting with them.

Yea, but they may hold an image in their mind that you are a slob for not taking care of your teeth.

I say this generally, because you can get some very, very shallow people.

Shallowness has it's source in our innate evolutionary condition to pick out the fittest individuals from a crowd. Unattractiveness is a sign of genetic flaws. We've learned to suppress those immediate responses, but our (initial) perception of beauty is dependent on it.

But, if you can't present the fact that you're a cool dude who they should want to get to know, they'll focus on your teeth.

That's a whole other project that will require me spending more time socializing, which is time I don't have right now.

Don't believe that most people will ignore oddities?

They can. I want to give them a reason not to have to. This is within my grasp of what I can fix. I can improve myself along this path. I'm not choosing it exclusively, but it sounds like you do.

Btw, kids teeth look fine. They look a bit british, that's all.

I can take a picture of mine, provided you've already had lunch.

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