I've gotten this question a lot...

CypherWolf21 · 2016-06-01T06:41:23+00:00

Two options:

Agree and amplify - "one million served"

Deflect - "I used to. Now I'm just looking for the right girl".

Xemnas81 · 2016-06-01T05:34:40+00:00

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thesweetkind · 2016-06-01T19:45:26+00:00

For another deflect response, you could say something like, "I'd only sleep with those that I feel a connection or want more of a connection with."

recyclablebanthas · 2016-06-01T08:08:39+00:00

"Are you sleeping around a lot?"

Here's the thing: this is a question you don't see early on except with younger, immature, insecure, or sex-negative people.

It really depends on the situation, but depending on the subtext and context when this is asked, can sometimes tell you if you're going to enjoy hanging with that person or not.

Some girls won't ask this kind of question because they won't care. Often because they're non-judgmental about sexually active people.

The truth is yes and because my philosophy is be upfront and honest, I've been telling them yes. But I don't think this is the best answer.....

Let's be real here. Whatever you may be looking for, something casual or something serious, you shouldn't have to deal with judgement. A serious relationship wouldnt survive such judgement. And a casual interaction with such a person would not be fun.

Could you lie to such a person who is judgemental person? Sure. But then they'd still be judging you and themselves for being active, if you guys became active.

especially for the higher quality women

This is an arbitrary idea, about higher "quality". One man's "quality" is often not another man's idea of it.

Sexual openness, for example, is something o consider to be "high quality." I don't want to waste time with shitty sexual encounters or someone who's going to judge me or themselves for enjoying our bodies.

so my question is how are you guys dealing with this question. There has to be a better answer than, "yes."

Usually, I will answer this question, but before I do, I ask them to tell me why they ask this question, what they'd answer for themselves, and what they think about their own answer.

Knowing that, I'll answer it. No problem answering it. But most of the time, this question is not a terribly good sign.

Or, what Cipher Wolf said was pretty damn good......

Partydollz · 2016-06-01T06:27:19+00:00

Sometimes as a girl it's nice hearing the truth...my ex did that and I knew from the beginning how he was and I still accepted his past... he he would be loyal but didn't follow through... sometimes truth hurts but it's better than being lied to...just my opinion

Zimmerboy_ · 2016-06-01T04:59:37+00:00

Just say, "My life is too busy to sleep around, it wouldn't be fair to her."

CANTgetAbuttPREGNANT · 2016-06-01T09:28:33+00:00

Say "I'm not really looking for a committed relationship right now.."

GreySafet · 2016-06-01T18:51:16+00:00

The approach that's worked best for me is to be direct and forthright about sex. Very few guys do this, and, for those women craving sexual adventure (of which there are a lot), it's an incredible turn on. For those women who are extremely conservative and want to only be with "the one," it probably turns them off (I rarely meet them, so can't verify), and is a good way to rule out someone from your dating pool. By being direct, I mean answering the question the way you want it to be answered. I usually deliver several sentences that describe how much I love women, how much I love giving pleasure, and, indirectly, how skilled I am. "I enjoy sex. I'm a skillful and generous lover, but, most important, is that I really love women. I love learning about their erotic fantasies and exploring the many ways that every part of their body can experience pleasure, your lips and neck and legs, not just your pelvis. Men? We're really simple. We just need friction and time to get excited. Women? You're fabulously complex and erotic."

Woujo · 2016-06-01T19:16:07+00:00

"Are you sleeping around a lot?"

Are you?

Edgar_Allan_Rich · 2016-06-01T20:02:56+00:00

I think the question has been answered well already and I agree with the top posts.

But I would like to know your tactics for lining up Tinder dates. I've got plenty of matches but I'm very weak in the replies/flake department. If they don't flake I'm golden, but getting responses and setting up dates has been a real challenge for some reason.

zetayshow · 2016-06-01T11:49:02+00:00

I see that as a shit test normally. When woman ask me that i reply with a simple "I like to have fun." Works wonders.

katalis · 2016-06-01T12:39:53+00:00

"Yeah, every time I get sleepy"

DaygameCoach · 2016-06-01T05:44:14+00:00

Read the sidebar help for shit tests.

VernonMaxwell · 2016-06-01T09:13:59+00:00

always deny. In what way could it help you to tell her, "yes, I am." All that would do is make her wonder about STDs, you being a sex addict, you being a liar/cheater, etc etc.

Even if the girl just wants to fuck/NSA, I don't think knowing you fuck a lot is something she needs to know.

Aeon199 · 2016-06-01T04:51:23+00:00

You must be one heck of a high-status guy. That's the only way you could be having these results.

It's not fair that you put in such little effort and women flock to you, man.

Title	I've gotten this question a lot...
Author	sumtinsumtindarkside
Upvotes	31
Comments	32
Date	June 1, 2016 4:41 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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