Just came back from a party

Woujo · 2022-10-01T05:42:27+00:00

So you went to a party, didn't approach anybody, and then came home and wrote a post about how seduction is bullshit?

Why are you in this subreddit then? Did you expect guys to encourage you to get prostitutes? You are a loser taking the easy way out.

2022-10-01T11:57:34+00:00

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pierre_WaP · 2022-10-01T06:34:59+00:00

Hey mate. It can be quite nervous approaching. I’ve been there. Gone to a party and failed to start a convo. Please don’t give up after one bad experience.

I know people here will disagree with me, but there’s nothing wrong in seeing sx workers. Having sx is healthy.

Cookies993 · 2022-10-01T12:31:51+00:00

Bro…. Listen to me carefully. Next time, just let your guard down and expect less. Go to the party to enjoy yourself, when you do what YOU enjoy with confidence, you will be noticed. If you see an interesting girl, just talk to her, say anything casual about what you observe. Literally as simple as “Hey, can I join?” (If they’re playing beer pong). Once you’ve approached with anything as simple as that, try to enjoy yourself in her presence and just socialise. You’re game and social skills will improve drastically in the beginning by just talking normally to girls at parties and being around people with social skills.

ThenMap9703 · 2022-10-01T15:36:15+00:00

You leaned against a wall the whole time and still had girls rub up on you? Damn man, should’ve made some moves lol

Granny_Killa · 2022-10-01T07:13:36+00:00

If you have to travel every time you want to get laid, it becomes a very expensive process. It's also completely unsatisfying and the moment you stop throwing money around, it stops.

Why not learn how to build real connections with people instead? Wouldn't you rather have a girl who really wants to be there with you, not your wallet or (presumably american) passport?

You basically just said 'Engineering sucks. I tried to build a bridge on day 1 and it fell apart, therefore it's impossible'. No, the guys who can successfully build bridges went to university for 3-4 years before they even looked at bridge blueprints.

incognito3107 · 2022-10-01T09:55:01+00:00

Imagine baby that surrender its struggle to walk because it seems hard and it is constantly failing.

You are harshly judging yourself for no reason. Next time just make this little step further, if you can. No one is watching, you are your own worst enemy.

Scheefgaan · 2022-10-01T08:41:08+00:00

look man, you can’t put in little to no effort and expect results to come back. just because you workout doesn’t mean woman are lining up ready for you to take them out. these are mere stepping stones that helping you along the way.

you’re at a party, introduce yourself to some random people. “hey my name is __, i’ve never seen you before what’s your name?” or “hey my name is __, i’ve never seen you around, how do you know (host) or(certain friend)”

and man dance around a bit, have some drinks, no one cares how weird you dance because your at a house party and everyone is there to have a good time. the boldness will show and won’t go unappreciated.

lose the defeatist attitude

wj2smooth · 2022-10-01T12:34:29+00:00

Bro, I’m reading through this thread and if you truly want to talk to women you have to practice, just like you’d study for a test. Every conversation is practice whether you get the number or not. You just are nervous and uncomfortable and choose to remain on your comfort zone (the wall at a party is much more representative of it). You don’t need anyone to help you learn, you learn by doing.

BigishTuna · 2022-10-01T13:24:12+00:00

The reason you can’t do this is because, despite all the “work” you’ve put in, is because you’re completely insecure. You need to take a step back and think about what it means to be confident in yourself, with or without women in your life.

Women will come and go, but you need to be sure of YOURSELF and happy without the need for women around you.

The reason you “can’t” do this is because you are insecure. Women and people in general can smell that from miles away. Your insecurity is also what’s stopping you from even approaching in the first place.

You say you worked on your body, practice boxing, are studying in a lucrative field, etc, but what’s lacking is confidence. Get that straightened out and you’ll be on the right track.

I went through something very similar to you. PM me if you want to chat.

2022-10-01T12:13:11+00:00

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Unusual-Proceedure · 2022-10-01T12:47:43+00:00

The first time it's HAAARD and you have to give yourself permission to approach women in the first place. Yes, the first person you have to convince and/ or seduce is yourself. To think you are a capable, handsome, social, funny, etc.

I tried a less common approach once. I talked to a gorgeous psychologist who the company hired to give us a talk about tools that we can use to prevent or diminish stress at work.

When everyone was leaving the room I felt this curiosity about her. I saw beyond the beauty. Her speech, her authority and confidence in the subject matter. I was so intrigued that I didn't think twice and just moved towards her.

I said "Hi. I think your presentation was great and you have good skills at communicating this useful info. How did you learn all that? If you don't mind me to ask." See, the thing is, that small interaction opened a nice conversation and more questions. She was very nice... Even gave me her number (voluntarily from her part). I'm going to have a second date with her today. I'm chill about it, don't want to pressure things. If this works it's fine, if not it's also fine.

TL;DR I've met a sweet, intelligent woman that a past version of myself would be too scared to even talk to. I said 'fuck it, let's go' and without even knowing I sparked some curiosity in her aswell. Just talk to people. Meet them without a 'game' in your mind. If you click, you click.

Title	Just came back from a party
Author	aeroaca9
Upvotes	0
Comments	68
Date	October 1, 2022 5:34 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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